My Ever Changing Viewpoint on Paleo and CrossFit

It’s slightly annoying that I have to write this. Especially since no one has really directly asked me to share why I’ve changed how I eat or changed how I workout. They just go on “hate blogs” to talk about me and other people in this community. It’s a very strange thing. People care more about what others are doing, how others are eating or how those people look, than they seem to care about their own diets, figures, and well, lives. I get it. Those people have boring lives. They do. I will look at instagram and see some of the top female CrossFitters post pictures of their jacked bodies and people talk sh*t about them. Right there. They say “I wouldn’t want to look like that” or “Why would you want to look like a man?” Oh, you know what’s crazy? That is THEIR life. Their non-boring life. Not yours. Theirs. People are entitled to eat what they want, drink what they want, workout how they want to, and really do whatever the eff they want to do. But people just have to voice their negative opinions?

I hate negative people.

I went off on a tangent there, so let me get to why I’m writing this. I recently came across a forum saying things like I have disordered eating or I don’t really eat paleo anymore and I should be living up to the brand I created, and things I posted in the past don’t live up to how I live my life now. And that I should post about why these things have changed. They didn’t come to my blog and request that in the comments, they just posted it on a hateful website. Makes sense, right? It’s ok, I get it. They’re scared. So I’ll help those scared people out and post this blog post.

I used to compete in CrossFit, I used to do 2-3 workouts per day, I used to restrict my diet because I was gaining weight and couldn’t figure out why, I used to say I didn’t mind getting bigger because I wanted to compete at a high level, I used to constantly talk about my frustrations with my body, etc, etc, etc. And recently, I stopped talking about all those things. I stopped talking sh*t about my body, I stopped posting what I ate in a day in blog posts, I stopped working out multiple times a day. I stopped all of it.

In my 26 short years of life, I’ve come to figure out that people seem to talk more about the things they are insecure about. Their relationships, their bodies, their jobs, their diets. Whatever. So I constantly talked about my body and appreciating it because I was trying to cover up all those insecurities I had and come to terms with how I looked. When I was competing in CrossFit, I put on 30 pounds. I wasn’t comfortable at that weight or with how I looked. I didn’t care what other people thought, but I wasn’t comfortable with it. I didn’t fit in my clothes, I didn’t feel sexy, I just didn’t feel like me. So I constantly wrote blog posts trying to come to terms with those insecurities.

I would look to other competitive CrossFitters who were jacked and shredded and even though I could beat some of them in workouts, I didn’t look like that. And I was really insecure about it. And frustrated. So I would try to eat completely strict, restrict my intake of fat, carbs and protein, and just drive myself crazy with restrictions. It was so frustrating. I was looking everywhere for control: In my workouts, in my diet, everywhere.

When I look back, I was completely overtrained. I worked out way too much for my body, I didn’t eat enough, and because of all of this, my hormones were out of control. I finally injured myself (my shoulder), was forced to cut back, and slowly over time started to live a more normal lifestyle. I worked out once a day, I cut back on weights to work on my form and I decided that cutting portions wasn’t working and started eating more of the foods I wanted. My hormones began to level out more, my body felt way better than it ever had, and I lost some of the extra weight I had gained from working out too much.

My body is different than every single other person in this world. Completely different. I could workout the exact same, eat the same, sleep the same and do everything the same as one of my jacked competitive CrossFit friends, and I would look nothing like her. That’s because my body is different. And my goals are now different than they were. Before, I wanted to compete. That’s it. I did that and then I changed my mind so I could live a happier lifestyle. I didn’t think I would ever stop training and stop competing, but I did. Have you ever thought you wanted something and changed your mind along the way? If you haven’t, you’re boring.

So here’s the conclusion for all the a**holes out there that want to talk sh*t behind their computer screens on a website dedicated to hating people: you’re right. You can pat yourself on the back. I’ve had disordered eating habits in the past, along with probably 80% of the female population. I’ve tried all kinds of things to feel better about myself like dieting and excessive working out, along with probably 80% of the female population.  I would absolutely love to say that I’m 100% cured and will never have those feelings again, but I think that is a really childish thing to say. I can’t see the future, can you? I can’t see how my body will change, can you? I can’t see the battles I will face someday, can you? Answer: no.

I am absolutely happy where I am now. I sometimes workout 5-6 days per week (I usually do my CrossFit workouts lighter now but sometimes feel like going heavier) then I sometimes take lots of rest days when I feel like it (like the 4 days off last week I took). I’m not as strong as I used to be and I’m ok with that because I’m more comfortable in my skin, but I’m also better with some of my skills like muscle ups since I don’t constantly obsess over them. I eat when I’m hungry, I eat gluten free breads that don’t upset my stomach, I eat a paleo cookies when I want to because it doesn’t upset my stomach like a normal cookie would, and I try to live a life of moderation. Like eating the wedding cake I had this past weekend. It wasn’t paleo, it wasn’t gluten free, it was just delicious and covered with icing. Did I feel bad about it? Nope. Not in the slightest. I want to live a happy life at the end of the day. Not a life of restrictions.

So here’s what I recommend to everyone. Live the life that makes YOU the happiest. Whether that’s paleo, gluten free, pure gluten, CrossFit, jazzercise, marriage, single, muscular, skinny, really whatever. I don’t care. It’s your life. Do what makes YOU the best kind of person. Not because other people do it, but because you love it. And while you’re at it, try to keep your negative comments to yourself. No, don’t try. Just do it.

And that’s how I feel about that.

Oh, Hi! I’m Juli.

I’m a food hoarder. And a really bad dancer. If you don’t know me well, you will probably not understand my humor. Therefore, I apologize ahead of time. Thanks for listening to my ramblings of my ever-changing life and trusting my kitchen mishaps. Your trust in me is appreciated.

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419 thoughts on “My Ever Changing Viewpoint on Paleo and CrossFit”

  1. I’m in awe that people feel so upset or bothered that they go talk shit elsewhere. That’s so strange to me. You can do everything right, and have just a few tiny little things that aren’t textbook perfect and all people will remember are those so called “imperfections.” And then we wonder why practically every single person in society has some sort of crazy complex, i.e. disordered eating. If it’s good enough for you, then it’s perfect, eff the rest. Seriously though, I can’t fathom the level of d-baggie-ness of some people. Anyways, glad you’re living your life for you 🙂

  2. My dear Juli. You never have to justify anything, but I am very proud you shared. Your struggle is like many others, and I am so grateful that you have the courage to continually strive to be true to yourself. We all have loved you through competing and now when you are just cranking out cookbooks with George. It is so wonderful to see your evolution. You are a true representation of what Paleo is. You have found the healthy balance that most people seek. I am so proud to call you my role model and keep up the good work!

  3. Well said, Juli!

    If only I was half as insightful and self-aware as you at 26years. It took me double that to get anywhere near close. Wisdom well beyond your years. Keep it up. Continue to inspire others.

  4. seriously? people are dumb. Don’t sweat them…you are a beautiful, incredibly talented woman that brings joy (and laughter, and recipes) to so many!

  5. You rock Juli. Forget the haters. I wonder what those people are doing with their life? If they’re so die hard.. shouldn’t they be at the gym or cookin up some strict diet meals instead of cyber bullying. Sad, soo sad & pathetic.

  6. It blows my mind how judgemental people are, especially in the world of social media. I for one have to say- I have been following your blog for 2 years now and in my mind its just getting better and better. I am also 26 and learning my way through life and find this blog a great place to get a laugh, become inspired with food and more recently to giggle over Jackson pics. You inspire me as a young woman to live a balanced, happy life. Those haters need a good kick in the butt, but then that would just give them something else to whine and complain about. Don’t change! 🙂

  7. Exactly!!! I just love you! I’m a 51 yo paleo woman. Love to be good to myself, that’s why I try to eat paleo and work out!

  8. Juli, as always, thank you for your honesty. People are constantly looking for ways to make themselves feel better and the easiest way is to do that is to put down others. You’re an inspiration to Paleo and non-Paleo eaters. Thanks for doing what you do and remember that you are appreciated. 🙂

  9. I never ever talk about my insecurities, I think because I feel like if I do it makes them real, or people will obstensibly notice them too. But I am probably the most insecure person I know. I guess just a different perspective.

  10. Wow, so well-said. Thanks for being so honest. I’ve had a hard realization like this as well. I’m 23 days into a Whole30 and it has just occurred to me that this whole following the rules things is bullsh*it. We make choices with what we eat – duh. And it’s totally up to us what we choose. It doesn’t always have to be the “right” thing, because there is no such thing as the “right” thing. Life is so much bigger than how one eats. That’s just a little part. It’s so much better to balance eating in a way that makes you feel physically good and eating things that bring you joy.

    You said it exactly. I started bawling half way through Murph yesterday and couldn’t finish because instead of focusing on completing the workout, I was thinking about how I wasn’t as thin or as fit or as whatever as the people who were “beating” me. That’s crap.

    Trying to find the balance here for myself. Keep up your good work. Everybody is on their own journey– don’t let people beat you down for traveling your own path.

  11. you’re soooo the best. THE best!!!! obsessed from behind my computer screen with ya 😉 #whycantwejustbebffs

  12. You are just way beyond awesome 🙂 I admire you. I can relate to you in the sense that I also love paleo because it doesn’t upset my tummy. And I love your recipes… Thank you for sharing!

  13. I couldn’t agree more with this post. My body can handle working out five days per week, but does that mean someone else should? I have no idea. I only know my body so why should I pressure someone else to do what I’m doing? Maybe someone else needs three rest days. I blog because I like sharing my food and fitness ideas, but that doesn’t mean I expect other people to live exactly the way I do. Everyone is different and has different goals.

  14. Bravo Juli. Who decided that identifying as Paleo has to mean you eat 100% Paleo all the time? Isn’t the point of eating Paleo to be healthy and happy? Like you, I can achieve that at less than 100%. I make no apologies.

  15. Juli- WELL SAID!! I follow your blog and Instagram and it is crazy the comments that people make. When I started researching Paleo, your blog was the first to come up and I loved it! You are real and the information you provide is great!
    I love your recipes, your pictures, your blogs posts and most importantly I think you are an inspiring person! Keep doing what your doing! Thank you!

  16. Great post! A couple of things I wanted to share:

    1. Some friends of mine and I were talking about you this weekend. About how awesome you are. We love your recipes, but even more love your blog posts. Keep it up!

    2. I love this blog post for the message. I needed to hear it today. I was just looking at pictures from our Murph event and I was unhappy with how I look. Because obviously I am insecure about my body right now. I haven’t been happy with what I’ve been eating and I am injured so I can’t work out how I like so I’ve been over compensating on cardio. I guess what I’m trying to say is – it is nice to hear that people that I view as experts go through the same thing.

    And I just love your blog. The end.

  17. Kelly McCormick

    As numerous people have stated above!! YOU DO ROCK JULI!!
    I love your blog, your sense of humor, and your recipes…they are inspirational to a lot of people, so never mind those negative ones. Keep it up!!

  18. Well said, Juli! Bravo to you for being as forthright as you are on this blog. I think you are inspiring!

  19. Amen! I am pretty new to Paleo and am loving your blog. It’s more realistic to me and you don’t make it seem impossible. Everyone has to do what works for them, and you are. Thanks!

  20. You’re a rockstar, and I’m shocked that people have nothing better to do than belittle your choices on some other website. Ridiculous! I, for one, am incredibly grateful that you’re so candid and honest with us about your viewpoints, and how your life evolves.
    It’s super inspiring, actually; for years I’ve been the ‘paleo maven’ to everyone who knows me… I’ve been vocal about the lifestyle, very dedicated for years. A few months ago, I made the decision to stop eating meat (based on ethical reasons), and actually… I was embarrassed about it! I was so worried about what people would say about my lifestyle switch, that even though it’s my choice, and my life, I keep quiet because I’m worried about all the little comments.
    Seeing you speak your truth gives me the courage to be more confident in my own. Thank you! You seem like an awesome person to get your gluten free pizza on with, and I hope the haters never EVER keep you quiet. 🙂

  21. This was really timely for me as I’ve been having sort of parallel thoughts as far as my body: workouts and diet. Though why anyone would give a damn what you do or don’t do, I don’t know. Keep on doing you, especially the simpler straightforward recipes I can do after I get home from work! 🙂

  22. I was just discussing this very idea with someone yesterday. I turned them on to paleo eating & they have taken to a place of legalism… I think that is where failure kicks in… It becomes a “diet mentality” our focus is not on a joyful life, or health but this “diet”. It becomes a false idol… & false idols always fall. When I was all about “the rules” I was at my heaviest weight. Why? Because my focus was on food, not joy. It consumed me. Now I have found success is in balance. I generally eat 75% paleo & 25% whatever I want. I work out 3 times a week & love my body (on most days). It works for me! Paleo is a great way to eat healthy, keep carb consumption low, etc. However, sitting on my front porch with my guitar and a large glass of sweet tea (& maybe a few bites of blueberry pie) is ok too. Life is about love & joy… Not about rules & perfection. Thank you for this post! People need recipes & tools to improve their health, not another set of diet rules to adhere to. Way to promote food freedom!!!

  23. I love you Juli. High fives for getting that off your chest. I see those nastygrammers on Instagram and I wish there was a button for me to punch them in the face. People are so hateful! If it’s any consolation, you’re not the only one – I see so much negativity and hatefulness on so many Instagram accounts, and really, it’s like, people just don’t have lives, or they have such miserable lives they have to take everyone down with them. Find comfort in all of us who adore you and your recipes and your use of cheese and everything you do. <3

  24. Boom! Thanks so much for this..it’s relatable on so many levels. Be your best self, no one else’s.

  25. What is WRONG with people??? I would bet that most of the people that read this blog don’t eat 100% Paleo all the time. I certainly don’t but I treasure your blog so much for the 90-95% Paleo lifestyle that I aim for. I recently joined instagram (following you of course) and witnessed some of the hate comments…I just don’t get it. Eat and post all the non-paleo food you want! I do want your abs though 🙂

  26. So….I agree with you on how you view life/food/diet/exercise etc. That’s a great attitude! But here’s where I have trouble with this post – it’s a lot of anger. You, as a blogger, choose to put your life out there for public review, consumption and comment. That is a choice you have made. You’ve also branded it as a paleo lifestyle. Now, I don’t care at all how you choose to eat or workout – whatever works for you, truly! But I do see how the non-paleo stuff could be seen as disingenuous branding. You tout paleo as such a healthy lifestyle, but you don’t actually live that lifestyle. And that’s OK! I’m not paleo. But maybe you need a new blog name.

    1. Honest question – it seems like Juli eats paleo a good 80 – 90% of the time (from at least what she shares on her blog). What exactly is the paleo lifestyle to you? Do you have to eat paleo 100% of the time for a certain amount of weeks before you call yourself paleo? Everyone seems to have a different definition and this is where the confusion and purists come from.

    2. Not that Juli needs me to defend her… but I find your comment inappropriate and unnecessary.
      All of her recipes are paleo… that is the main gist of her blog. But she also chooses to share her real life with us all… she doesn’t say “I did this today, so you should do it too” it’s merely an insight into the life of someone who eats paleo the majority of the time and how it works for her.
      If people don’t feel she’s paleo enough, they have the right to choose to NOT follow her blog, instagram etc.
      What you DON’T have the right to do is to tell her how to live her life or blog. Those opinions should be kept to oneself.
      I’m paleo… 90% of the time.. and I can say I’ve NEVER been offended, put off, unmotivated or any other negative thing by a single blog post, picture or comment of Juli’s. She’s nothing but inspiring… and damn funny too.
      Kudos to her for telling the negative people to F off… this is HER blog… that is HER right.

      1. Now, now…I don’t think it was inappropriate. I was very respectful and agree that Juli has every right to do whatever she wants. But making a whole brand around the paleo lifestyle and not following it can seem disingenuous. That’s all. One wouldn’t say “I’m a vegetarian, but I eat steak” would they? Or “I am gluten free, except for pasta”? Yes, paleo is super restrictive, but people place that label on themselves. They can’t place that label on themselves, use it as a brand to develop a successful business, then be upset if people point out discrepancies between their business proposal (paleo = health) and their actual activities (not eating paleo). This is why I had to stop being paleo – the label stress was too much. I never said I found Juli unmotivating or anything like that. I’m just suggesting that if being uber-paleo isn’t working for her personally, maybe she should also make authentic shifts to her blog/books to reflect that (god knows, I wouldn’t mind some recipes with cheesey-goodness!).

        1. that’s exactly what i do. i post strict paleo recipes on my blog and cookbooks for people who follow that lifestyle then i post recipes on my instagram that include other things like gluten free breads that work for me to give ideas to other who don’t follow as strict of rules

        2. Her recipes are paleo. Do you own either of her cookbooks… they’re paleo. Not sure how that could be any clearer.
          As far as the paleo label… all the research I did before changing to this life… I never found the “label” to be super strict or stressful.
          In fact paleo is just the opposite… it’s a list of guidelines to help you eat the cleanest way that works for you. I find it to be the easiest way of eating! Sure there is the 100% pure way of being paleo… but that maybe works for a small subset of people. But the great thing about paleo… is that it’s flexible. Does dairy work for you… great, add in some whole fat, grass fed dairy to your diet. Allergic to nuts… ok, then try tapioca or coconut flour for the occasional baked treat. No where in my research did I see “You must do A, B & C to be paleo”… and based on my research, what Juli is doing is 100% right. She doesn’t need to change her name because you think it isn’t right. Sucks that paleo didn’t work for you… but that doesn’t mean you should dictate the right way to Paleo for others.
          Her name is accurate… her blog is wonderful… her recipes further more are delicious and easy! That’s what PaleOMG is all about.

    3. I totally get it and get why people get frustrated. but i disagree with you about the changing my blog name. my blog recipes and my cookbooks are COMPLETELY paleo. every single recipe on my blog is paleo (minus probably 3 that use raw cheese, which can easily be removed) but I do not believe that I should change my brand name when everything that is represented in my recipes are paleo and when I do talk about my diet in the “about me” section as more of an 80/20 approach.

      1. Juli – hi! That was sort of a tongue-in-cheek suggestion, but really…if paleo isn’t working for you, what’s wrong with expanding? I know that I (as a reader) wouldn’t mind recipes that included other things. The disingenuous part, to me, isn’t about what is in the book – it’s selling something that you don’t really use. But again, that is your choice. It’s ok…but you seemed furious in this post and I wanted to point out, rationally and certainly not in a mean way at all, that perhaps there was something to be learned here, from potential consumers of your product, right?

        1. She’s finding balance. Being honest about 80/20 isn’t disingenuous or selling something she doesn’t use. She does use it. 80% of the time. Which is probably a reasonable-to-exceptional reflection of the vast majority of her targeted demographic.

          Because she’s not 100% super strict doesn’t invalidate her lifestyle. 80/20? It’s an admirable, attainable, sustainable form of the Paleo lifestyle. Have your cake. Eat it. Eat more cake.

        2. i completely understand. that’s why i create and share some of those “outside the paleo box” recipes on instagram so other people outside paleo can benefit. but changing my brand name isn’t what i want to do. just being honest with people and sharing what foods work for me is what i want to do. thanks for the suggestion though!

        3. I’m pretty sure if you read said post again, she’s angry because people ( at this point you could probably insert yourself here) are being assholes and being judgmental. If you don’t like her blog or have a problem with it, then don’t follow it and keep your mouth shut. The “strict” paleo you so speak of is mostly whole30 paleo in which you restrict everything and go back to basics, then after Whole30 you reintroduce some normal some altered foods to your bodys design. Again if you have a problem, take you hatefullness elsewhere.

          1. Someone needs to tell Ashley to bug off. What a little flea. II’ll do it, “Bug off, Ashley”. Go be self righteous on somewhere else, don’t mess with our JB. She’s perfect. Her blog is perfect. Her recipes are perfect. Now Shoo.

        4. That’s like saying someone can’t have a website full of vegetarian recipes unless they’re vegetarian, or a blog about cakes when they don’t eat only cakes – aka ridiculous and pointless. Juli never said “EAT ONLY PALEO, ALL THE TIME”, ever, as far as I can remember. She posted delicious recipes, and kindly gave us a little window into her at-times hilarious life. And that’s it. It’s a recipe blog. Get over it. Also anyone who thinks that posting about your life on the internet is like putting a sign on your head saying “Judge me” is likely contributing to the problem of judgemental BS on said internet – I don’t care if you think you don’t, because you totally just did. Think about that for a minute, before you go judgy-judging people again missy.
          I know I’m late to the party, but whatev’s. You rule, Juli, never change – unless you want to 🙂

      2. I disagree with changing the blog name too. It’s the most clever one I’ve ever seen. I’m just saying… 🙂

    4. Disingenuous branding? Take a look at her tagline up in the header. “Real Food, Real Life, Real Simple”. In what way has she strayed from her brand?

      Furthermore, just because someone chooses to put their thoughts, feelings, recipes online does not give anyone the right to bully or badger them.

  27. Thank you for writing this. I get called out all the time — OMG I had a couple nachos and a drink at happy hour! And this is by my family and friends. I found that if I stress less about exactly what I’m eating and just listen to my body and LIVE the stress goes down and I’m happier. And isn’t that what it’s all about? Being happy? Cause seriously, you are the only one who has to live with yourself. Not anyone else. You do you Juli! Don’t let the haters get ya down

  28. I’m so sorry people have been talking bad about you. Regardless of whether we say we won’t let it bother us or not, it can still hurt. I loved this post and will pass it on because it is so true and we all just need to worry about ourselves and stop poisoning others with our negativity. We all need to find what works for us. And I have to say, I LOVE your blog! I went Paleo just a few months ago for health reasons and yours was the first website I went to when I needed a little inspiration (I’ve been gluten free for over 5 years and had already made several of your recipes.) I’ve gotten some criticism myself recently and I don’t understand it. I’m just trying to make myself healthier – to stop being miserable – and it’s working and I can’t believe some people just can’t be happy for me. Then again, like you said it’s often things we don’t like in ourselves we feel the need to complain about and they aren’t living very cleanly or healthfully. I would love to give them my opinion in how I feel about that but I don’t because I’m nicer than they are. And happier for not stooping to their level and buying into all the hype out there. Keep it up, Juli. You’re awesome!!

  29. Juli you are such an inspiration!! THank you for this post today, I really needed this and can relate 100% !! I read your blog everyday and making all your recipes!! I was most miserable when overtraining and restricting my diet to pretty much veggies and protein with starchier items here and there.. Balance and moderation is key! I enjoy goat cheese, some gluten free items and having cheat meals here and there with no regrets!!! Thank you for being such a positive role model because you are a REAL normal person!!! 🙂

  30. You are so wise! I’m 64 years old, going into my third year of paleo after decades (DECADES!) of being miserable about my body. I have never been healthier, felt better about myself or been more comfortable in my own skin than these last few years. Good for you for reaching such very sane conclusions at the ripe old age of 26. You will rock in your golden years!

    1. Meghan says exactly what I’m thinking. At 49 I’ve finally reached this same point too. You are wise beyond your years Juli and it looks like you’ve got a lot more supporters than critics here. Perhaps you could consider not even visiting those sites with the haters? Eventually you will be able to ignore those types of post. You’re a rock star now so that’s just inevitable. 🙂 Rock on, girl!

  31. Absolutely beautiful and well said! I couldn’t agree with you more. We all should do what feeds our soul. It’s sad that people can’t either see the positive in what others do…or at least mind their p’s & q’s….I love what you do and the inspiration you give to others…we all have gone through things and are not here to judge others…

    Your a kind soul Juli, keep up the great work 🙂

  32. Preach, Juli! I loved this post. Good for you. You don’t have to explain yourself to any of us and yes, if you didn’t change, you would be boring! Everyone changes. This post was exactly what I needed to hear today, so thank you. Keep being the best version of yourself — whatever that looks like over time. 🙂

    Lots of love from a Denver reader!

  33. Well said! One big lesson I’ve learned in this past year is that criticism oftentimes comes from and reflects another person’s insecurities. And you don’t need to be online to see that. This is your blog, you put the hard work into making it what it is, and you have every right to share your life with the people who choose to read it, whether you’re eating 100% paleo or not. It’d be incredibly disingenuous to not be open about those things, so I applaud you!

  34. Juli, you are doing just fine! Learning about ourselves and discovering what works for is the whole point, and it’s a lifelong journey. What they wrote says more about the writer than it ever will about you. Think how ugly a person must be inside to be that hateful?

  35. I’ve never posted a comment, but I feel compelled to tell you that I think you rock! As a 26 year old woman, I can totally relate to your past struggles and I strive everyday to have the confidence you project. Thanks for being awesome.

  36. I started following you on IG because I love your style of writing and your pics; food, dog, workouts, whatever. I basically stopped following you because I couldn’t stand the fact that at least one person on, it seems, every single photo, would try and call you out. Down to telling you that frozen berries aren’t “paleo”. It is crazy how involved people feel that they are entitled to get in your life and how mean/judgmental/snarky/jealous some of them are! I felt awful for you and kind of hope that you have put your comments notifier on auto-delete.

    This post was very well written, passionate while still being civil and honest. Nice work!

    1. it really is frustrating on instagram sometimes. so many people just have honest questions, then people jump down their throats, but then people just feel like being mean. it’s so strange.

  37. Julie you’re so awesome! When I started changing to a paleo lifestyle (80/20 most usually) yours was the mindset I identified with most. You model to me what a balanced paleo perspective is. It’s not balls to the wall, it’s not impossibly perfect- it’s HUMAN. It allows for tweaking and moderation and customizing. Your approach has helped me be successful in my efforts, and for that I am extremely grateful. I am finally making some sustainable changes that help me feel better about myself. Healthier, and balanced and GOOD.

    Not only that, it’s helped me realize that everyone is different and you have to find what works for you. I take criticism with exactly that mind frame, and don’t offer any because of that mind frame, and let me tell you, I am one happy chick because of it.

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You rock. Keep doing your thing.

  38. SO well said! And this is exactly why so many of us love you 🙂 You’re great and there’s nothing else to add!

  39. Great post Juli! F the haters.. seriously people need to find something better to do with their lives!

    I do have a question, for some reason ever since I subscribed to your newsletter (the round up), I don’t get the daily posts I used to get from you. I try to sign up again but it won’t let me, saying, obviously, that I’m already signed up. So basically I’m getting 1 email a week from you and it makes me sad! I always look forward to your recipes/posts. Not sure if this makes sense or if other people have had issues. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

  40. Awesome post! I would have to agree with the previous commenters. Such wise words from a 26 year old! If only your enemies knew how much they were helping you figure out life and gain wisdom…..

  41. Amen.

    My guess is the haters are insecure and unhappy with themselves, so it’s way easier to tear you down than fix themselves. I appreciate your blog, your recipes, and you’re real-ness.

  42. Right. on. the. money. You have no idea how many people love you and all that you do/eat/post. Thank you for staying true to YOU. We all struggle with our body image as women at some point or another in our lives. It’s nice to know we are not alone in the battle. Keep the positive vibes coming and please, for gods sake, don’t stop posting your paleo desserts 🙂

  43. Way to keep it real.

    It sucks you have to dedicate a post to justify YOUR choices and actions, especially when those it is directed towards will probably never have the balls to acknowledge it in the comments…

    I’ve been there right along with you.. doing something for a super long time (medical school..) and recognized that I was freaking miserable and ruining my body (eating disorder..) while doing it. So.. I changed the situation and got out. Yes, sometimes I like to dabble in my medical terminology textbooks and be the huge nerd that I am, but for the most part, I am MUCH happier and MUCH healthier not being in that environment. People suck that can’t understand that. Keep doing what you’re doing and be happy with the freedom and life you have chosen, and choose, to live.

  44. Did i mention how awesome you are? TRUTH BOMB! i crossfit and eat mostly paleo, but there are always those days when you just need to enjoy your life and not freak out about eating a donut or two. love it. keep preachin it girl

  45. thank you for sharing this, juli.

    i have been struggling with the mind game that if i don’t eat strictly paleo, i’ve gone back on what has now been a 2 year experiment.

    i realized lately that i’ve been devoting A LOT of mental energy to this, and i don’t want to be in bondage to whether or not i ate a gluten-filled cookie. it’s a choice, neither moral or immoral–just a choice.

    i’d lost sight of that.

    i appreciate all you GIVE to your readership. only hypocrites throw stones, so don’t listen to the haters. you do what you do because you want to do it, which is what you’re doing. i applaud you.

  46. I don’t know you personally, but I admire your honesty and ability to put it out there. You’re right: 80% (probably more) of the female population have some sort of disordered eating issue. Not necessarily something serious like anorexia or bulimia, but just a slightly distorted way of looking at food sometimes. I know I do. I go get a burger and fries and stuff myself to the brim and wonder WTF did I just do that cuz I feel like I’m going to barf! Then I try to restrict myself after that but of course it doesn’t work. Ugh lol
    Anyways. I used to work at a ‘globo’ gym of sorts and lived that artificial gym lifestyle for a while. It’s full of fake, bitter people who are so unhappy yet continue to do what they do to maintain their ‘perfect’ bodies. I have never entered the ‘crossfit’ community because honestly, I feel like they get a bad rap. And those select few gyms that are a**holes ruin it for the majority of people who have the slightest interest in working out there but don’t. I do have friends who crossfit who do not fit the typically ‘crossfit’ hardcore personality and I like that. I know it exists, and I’m sure it does with your gym. But those select few just ruin it for everyone else.
    So whoever this guy/group is that’s talking shit should just stop. They’re not only a**holes for putting you down, but they’re definitely not helping those who are interested in those workouts but don’t want to join cuz they don’t want to deal with the bullshit.
    Wow, there’s my rant as well:)

    P.S. You look great no matter what! I would love to have your body!! If you’re comfortable in your own skin, that’s all that matters!

  47. I love this and have mad respect for you putting your life our there on this blog and through instagram. I love what paleo/whole30/21dsd/etc has taught me about my body’s reaction to food and movement, but I’m so burnt out on putting a label on it because once you label yourself as “paleo” or “crossfit” people expect you to be 100% all the time. The standard is impossible to meet. Thank you for modeling what a healthy balance is and for showing that your ideas about health can change over time (and will probably continue changing depending on circumstances).

  48. so beautifully said!

    i was raw vegan for a time in my life. and ya know what? haters gonna hate.

    great reminder to spend a lot less time telling other people what to do.

    instead, let’s get busy supporting each other, cheering each other on, and telling each other “fuck yeah!”

  49. I would just like to say your blog was the first paleo blog I read and fell in love with. Your posts are insightful, funny, and you are a constant inspiration. Fuck the haters!

  50. You know what they say about opinions. They’re like a**holes. Everyone has one and they all stink (or are full of s**t). Some people feel the need to criticize everything and that’s fine, but those people don’t always have to share their opinion. You do you. I’m here for the food, and you eat and make a lot of good food. It’s funny how much better we feel when we just shut up and feed ourselves.

  51. JB you rock! You are a strong beautiful woman! You inspire so many people in the paleo community. I have never met a person that doesn’t say “OMG” I love her! Keep on kicking ass girl!

  52. Well said! Everyone is different, and everyone has to appreciate that. I like that you live a life of moderation, and love reading your blogs! 🙂

  53. Good for you. Do what makes you feel good. I don’t understand negative people, other than the fact that they’re miserable in their own lives, and misery loves company.

    Keep doing what you do!

  54. That actually brought tears to my eyes! Everyone should do what is right for themselves at that moment in their lives because it makes them feel good at that moment in their lives. And the funny thing is, what is right today, may not be right tomorrow or the next day or next week or next year because people grow and change and evolve. Hopefully we learn in the process and make better decisions each time, but life is about happiness – the longest, healthiest, happiest life you want for yourself and that is different for everyone!

  55. Thank you for sharing! It must be hard to deal with all that negativity floating around the Internet.

    I follow a modified Paleo diet too. About 80% of the time, I stick with Paleo. Then, when I want an omelet with cheese or tacos or (GASP) a bowl of pasta, I go for it. I feel good, and that’s what’s important. Life’s all about finding your own balance and not about following the rules. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  56. I love this, and I can’t say it enough. There are a lot of hateful people out there who have nothing better to do than pick apart someone else’s life — even when it’s someone that they don’t even know! I have to say that you are one of my favorite IG accounts to follow, and I think it’s BECAUSE you aren’t 100% strict in what you eat. You do what’s best for you on any given day, whether that’s lettuce wraps or a cookie. And I love that!

  57. I just love this. Also, Jackson.

    But more importantly this needs to be said. ALL OF THESE THINGS need to be said. It is damn hard enough to be a girl. The nonsense about improperly branding yourself is the equivalent of expecting every financial investor to be mother effing Warren Buffet. No, quite literally. The man himself. Ridiculous.

    You do you, boo boo. EVERYBODY got time for wedding cake!

  58. ..and this is precisely WHY your blog has been a success and your fans have been dedicated and your books will be a hit. Extreme anything is bad for people. But sticking to a lifestyle that works for you is all a part of that balance that people struggle to keep.

    You’re starting to become a notable figure, Juli. And with that leadership WILL come the haters. You’re doing great. Keep up the wonderful work; at least for the people who love what you’re all about 🙂

  59. Juli – Take a deep breath. One of the great things about growing up (meaning…I’m old) is that once you figure out what makes you happy and healthy it doesn’t matter AT ALL what other people think. Negative people are confused and sad (about their lives) and always largely ignorant (of your life, no matter how much you post out there). As for living up to your brand blah blah blah all you can do – all that we can ALL do – is be true to our brand at the moment. We all learn. We all change. My “brand” from 10 years ago seems silly given where I am now. So I have a new “brand”. And yours will always evolve, too. Enjoy your cookies. You’ve earned them.

  60. Good for you! I love your blog, your recipes, and your cute little dog, Jackson. 🙂 Keep up the great work! 🙂

  61. Juli, I’ve enjoyed cooking dozens of your recipes, following your social medias, and watching your blog grow. This blog post hit home for me, I’ve recently realized that moderation is key, especially for women (like me) who suffer from disordered eating and body issues. Keep on loving your beautiful self, eat how you want, and continue to be an inspiration to all your readers! Thank you for sharing, much love to you layday!

  62. This is awesome and refreshing and comes at a really good time (after a holiday weekend, I feel like ppl think they need to restrict and everyone on Instagram is “detoxing”). I was in the over- working out crew for a long time… I actually ended up with a broken hip and five full months out of working out besides biking and swimming. It’s been really frustrating but it pulled me out of a life of working out and eating super clean. In a strange way, I am grateful.

    Thanks for the post and all your posts paleo/ not paleo whatever. It’s helped me find a life of better balance.
    XO

  63. Babe, I know you already have a million comments on this post, but I just want to applaud you. I can relate to being bashed and talked shit about behind a computer screen. So, I feel you, sweetie. I really really do. Great post. This was my favourite line – > Do what makes YOU the best kind of person

    Thanks for being you, Juli 🙂 Wish I could hug you 🙂

  64. Well said Juli!

    I love your site, recipes and your blogs. I think that you’re just a very level-headed and down to earth person who always has something insightful to say.

    I couldn’t agree with you more on the topic of Crossfit or Paleo diet. I’ve also done Crossfit competitively and I’m actually a competitive Olympic weightlifter as well. Talk about screwing up my body and my own body image. There’s nothing that will do that faster then training hard for an Olympic weightlifting competition. I was huge and felt heavy, I did however do great at the sport. However, it wasn’t worth it to me, I took some time off, went back to Crossfit because I needed to for my own sanity and slimmed down since then.

    I definitely feel less bulky and more fit, which I’m happy with. However am I perfect? Uh, not. even. close. Do I eat healthy – yup for the most part, and fairly strict paleo too. Did I have pizza for dinner last night? Heck yeah I did – and not the “healthy” kind – the delicious, greasy, amazing kind!!! I’m not going to feel guilty about it either.

    I think it’s hard and there are all kinds of added pressures. I’m actually a coach for Crossfit as well as just a participant. People ask me for advice all the time on what they should be eating (or not eating). I give the best advice I can – eat what makes you perform and feel your best! As you mention Juli – we’re all different. What works for me won’t necessarily work for another. I also don’t want to live a life full of restrictions – it’s just too damn short too. I want to live a life full of flavor, fun and activities!

    Great post!

    ~T

  65. You Rock Juli ! I was having a pity poor me day after eating way to much crap over the holiday weekend. After reading that I can get right back on the wagon and stay focused.

    I love the inspiration you give me and so many others. I can’t tell you how many times your blog has made me smile . So screw those negative unhappy miserable haters. And keep up all your wonderful positive work, “I love it”

  66. Juli! You are the bomb.com (totally took that from total divas)… and I love your recipes and look forward to see what you post each day. It’s great to see other options for food other than just meat and vegetables because that can get boring. Thanks for making paleo more exciting!

  67. BOOM!! {Jealous} people will ALWAYS find a way of saying things that really cut to the core. I think your take of life is FANTASTIC – crazy workouts or not; Paleo food or not. Thank you for saying what I’ve been feeling!!

  68. Well… I am even more amazed. When I was first starting Paleo, a few months ago I lived on your blog. Every day. Because a)delicious food, b)personality and entertainment. Haters are gonna hate, and let them, the self loathing they have for themselves is merely displaced on you. It is an amazing thing to witness someone be happy, if you are capable of such things yourself. If you aren’t capable, you will hate on people. At 26 you are a role model, and an inspiration, I’m on your side. Thanks for writing this piece.

  69. I don’t usually comment but had to log on to say:

    Amen sister! And THIS is why I love you and your site. Amen.

  70. Brooke McClelland

    Very well said, Juli! I couldn’t agree more! Your blog is awesome, it makes me laugh and I make your delicious recipes at the same time, what more could we all ask for??!! Keep the pictures of Jackson coming!

  71. First thing – people who have enough time to seek out websites to talk shit about bloggers, etc, have serious issues. Those people need to get out, get a life and move on.

    Second thing – your blog is one of a few blogs that I started reading when I started trying to “go paleo” from the beginning of the year. Yours is the one I read and use the most frequently because it is the most practical, beginner-friendly, and fun! I think it’s great that you show the reality of eating paleo – it’s not always 100% possible, and it’s not the end of the world if you have a piece of cheese or a (real) pancake once in awhile! You’re doing an amazing job here on your blog, so don’t worry about a bunch of dummies who don’t have enough balls to even come and post here on your own blog. As you can see from all the comments today, YOU ROCK!

  72. Some people compare Paleo and/or crossfit with a cult, but I think you should compare it with a religion. You follow the main ideas/values but make your own choices witch “rules” to follow/believe. For example, if you are a liberal christian/paleo/crossfitter (myself) you will always have extremist that says that you are not “christian” enough and that their way of life are the right one. When one of the main principles of Christianity is forgiveness and not throwing the first rock. Ironic.

    And isn’t the point with paleo to eat more natural? And what is more natural than listening to your own body and eat what is healthy for you? And sometimes eat somethings that is better for the mind than the body? 80-90% paleo are pretty good in my book. There is nothing more boring than people who think that they are 100% perfect… And if they think so they are certainly not 100 %. So ignore them.

    Not a native English speaker so excuse my spelling/grammar.

    ps happiness piss people of, keep smiling!

  73. Who cares what people say. I totally get how your moods regarding eating and exercise change bc I am experiencing that too. And, we are women and have hormones and unfortunatley that affects us too. I feel like no one should be so held to a diet or exercise routine that once you deviate it from it you have guilt/anxiety, etc. I love all your recipes and tips, and people are idiots with too much time on their hands.

  74. The very same thing that motivates us to talk about our weight, our bodies, our workouts, our jobs, our relationships, etc.–our insecurities–is precisely what motivates those behind-the-screen negative creepers. They are insecure and need to find some way to rationalize why you are lean and strong and healthy and happy and they are not. Keep up your good work, Juli.

  75. I would say that 80% of the meals I eat are “paleo,” but if I take a trip to Italy, I’m having a plate of authentic pasta. Or if I’m celebrating a friend’s wedding, I’m going to have the champagne and cake. Why? Because life is too short to not enjoy those things. Like last Sunday, for example, I had a huge bowl ice cream with my fiance. It was a beautiful spring day and it felt like the right thing to do. And I’m so happy I did it.

  76. Hey Juli,

    I personally really appreciate that you very honestly share with us your journey with all your struggles. It is relate-able. As you mentioned probably 80% of women experience a similar struggle, and it really is a shame there are haters out there. But you’ve been with me through a really intense paleo restrictive diet to a more relaxed primal lifestyle. I can say I’m a happier person when I don’t cry over eating a bagel.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing your journey and don’t let the haters get you down. Appreciate how far you have come to a happier healthier lifestyle!

  77. I don’t think I’ve ever commented on your blog before but can we be best friends? No really I <3 you.

  78. Thank you!!! Juli I LOVE your blog!! I am recently/slowly switching to paleo due to health reasons and your blog is my absolute fav! I have made a few things and they turned out great!!! I do not plan to follow a strict paleo diet I need to stick with what works for me! Just like you do!!! You are an inspiration to me, everyday when I read your blog I feel like a normal person who has lifestyle/diet that not many understand. Thank you for doing what you do!!!!

  79. Juli! Well said- can’t believe those forums even exist. I love the hell out of your blog, your stories, and your meatballs.

  80. Though a longtime reader, I rarely comment but have to say: Good for you. You are absolutely right. People need to remember that we’re all individuals with different needs and different ways of responding. Folks need to lay the heck off.

  81. This. Totally this.

    It’s not like your blog domain is something like 100percentpaleo.com.

    Instead, it’s paleomg — a name that (to me) implies an enthusiasm for paleo food. It does NOT, in my perception, imply 100% commitment to paleo and crossfit!

    I love your stance, and can totally identify with the relaxed approach — so thank you!

  82. Juli,
    This is one of the BEST blog posts I’ve read in a long, long time.
    I wish more people shared this outlook on life.
    Really and truly inspirational and something that I’m sure each and every one of us can learn from and relate to.

    Our OWN happiness is so, so important and too often overlooked because we’re too busy being concerned about the path that other people are walking.

    Gay rant over.
    Thanks for this – great read!

  83. Seriously such an awesome post. I know so many women feel this way and you verbalized it perfectly! Rock on Girl!!!!!

  84. Juli Bauer I LOVE YOU!!!
    YES YES YES to everything you just said, and for not letting stupid and boring people change the fact that you are happy doing what is right for you. Loves your blog before and continue to love it now. 🙂

  85. Juli, you are beyond awesome. Echoing others on the blog: Ignore the mean nasties, you rock! You change people’s lives. You motivate others to live a healthier life, make us laugh and bring general happiness to our days. I am about 80/20 paleo and without your blog, recipes and humor it would be tough to stick with. You are my go-to when I need an awesome recipe or a good laugh. Keep it up, you are the best and ignore anyone who tells you differently! Mad, mad respect to you!

  86. Juli, well said, to each their own. I enjoy reading your posts and salivating over the recipes. I don’t consider myself any specific thing when it comes to how I eat. I’m just always on the look out for new, healthy, and creative recipes. I can’t wait to get your book in June and start cooking.

  87. You are the coolest. Someday I’m gonna start at the very beginning of your blog and read every post because I freaking love your humor and all of your recipes. I think it’s so great that you’re so real and you don’t pretend to eat perfect paleo and do CrossFit every minute of every day. Where’s the fun in reading a blog written by someone you can’t relate to? Hats off to you for standing up for yourself. Obviously your lifestyle is working well for you – so glad you’ve found your healthy balance! It’s all about moderation, and it definitely seems like you’re doing it right for you and being an inspiration for a whole lot of people (who aren’t so insecure about themselves that they have to go hating on other people all the time) while you’re at it. Thanks for being awesome!

  88. My friends and I have read your blog for years. I recently moved to CO and hope I get to meet you someday. I’ve also never commented on a blog, but I feel compelled to comment today to tell you this is why I love your blog, I’ve pretty sure I love you (you know, in a friend way), and that I’m thankful you wrote this. And I’m sorry for the reason you had to write it, but it’s powerful. And thanks 🙂

  89. Don’t let haters bring you down!!!!!! I agree that many of us are struggling with the same things and 80% of females have had issues with disordered eating in the past..I know I have. I’m still trying to work through those issues and gaining weight, so to read this about someone I really look up to helps a lot. Thanks for sharing!

  90. Have you ever gotten rhabdo? The first time I did Crossfit, I couldn’t extend my elbow the next day and it was really swollen. I went to the doc and they did some bloodwork and diagnosed me with a mild case of rhabdo. I loved my first experience, but now I am freaked out about getting rhabdo again. P.S. I love your blog and check it everyday for new recipes!

  91. Juli! Just had to say ‘amen sister!’ and give you a virtual high five. What a healthy outlook on life you have, you go girl!

  92. You are amazing! You are teaching and leading by example, showing that life is about balance! Your honesty is needed in this world because so many of us feel the way you feel yet are too afraid to share it. Keep doing what you’re doing. You have my support 100%. I love your blog.

    One more thing…we are all beautiful, just the way we are!

  93. I love this post. Your blog, instagram, cookbooks – all are AMAZING. Your honesty and what you share with everyone who follows is so refreshing. I’ve also had eating issues in the past, and some horrible food guilt that followed anytime I tried to have a small indulgence. I feel like paleomg has helped me get to a healthier place while also actually ENJOYING treats here and there (arepas – can i get a amen?!). Thanks for everything you do – please keep it up, there are far more people who appreciate your work/sites around here than there are haters.

  94. Julie, I haven’t ever left a comment on your blog. I am so moved by how honest and genuine you are. You are true to yourself, that is all that matters. Lori

  95. I completely understand where you are coming from. I have felt that same way many times especially with I was still a swimmer and then when I stopped working out 20+ hours a week and my body changed it took a lot to come to terms with. I was working out 5-6 days a week and eating not enough but still not losing weight. I am just now 3 years later becoming happy with the way my body looks and eating clean but still enjoying food! I think you are amazing!

  96. This is the first time I’ve commented on any of the food blogs that I follow. I really enjoy reading your blog and your recipes are fantastic. But I felt like I should comment here to show support in what you’re saying. Long story short, it’s sad that people have nothing better to do than to criticise other people. But I loved your response to this…and in my mind, you’re 100% correct. These people are just criticising because they are compelled by their own insecurities. I don’t think it’s any secret that the vast majority of women are insecure with their bodies at one stage or another. And it is important for people to find the routine (eating, working out, etc.) that works for them and makes them feel good about themselves. Plus, I’m always happy to hear that I’m not the only one that doesn’t deprive myself from the odd treat! haha. You’re the best, Juli!

  97. Look at all this love you have right here on your own site Juli! Let the haters whinge away their day and just keep doing what you’re doing because clearly you are a fortress to be reckoned with!!
    It does sucks you have to defend your own experiences of the past, but let it be known, if you put yourself out there and the bigger you become (not literally of course!), it’s only natural the haters are going to flock. mwah!

  98. Thank you for posting this!! I have enjoyed your blog and go to it FREQUENTLY for recipes. I have struggled with strict paleo and the best kind of exercise. In the last year I have gained weight and lot of it has been because I keep trying to be something I am not. So thank you for the reminder. Now I just need to figure out what is best for my body not necessarily someone else!

  99. I’m currently making one of your oh so delicious recipes and read this blog post. It was a mirror image of what happened to me after giving birth to my son. I’ve always been in shape, but husky, “big boned,’ but fit girl. After my son, I became just big. I was restricting my diet, eating clean, lean, counting fats, carbs, calories. I was going to the gym at 5 am every morning while getting up 3x a night with baby and working my butt off to get my (still big, husky, but fit) body back. I went back to playing my competitive sport, ringette, though my equipment didn’t fit. I was tired all the time. Truth is, I completely sent my hormones out of wack. My adrenal system shut down and my thyroid was sent into over-drive and then it too started crashing. I felt terrible. But how could I feel so terrible when I eat so healthy and workout, right? I finally got a concussion which slowed me down to a dramatic halt! I found myself a 100% trustworthy naturopath doctor who has helped me with diet and supplements and life-style change to find a balance. I eat a mix of pale and ketones diet and feel better then ever! I might even argue better then before I had my little guy! It’s been a very slow recovery, but I’ve learned to love my body because I’ve worked hard to make my body feel good. I get a lot of flack from people in my daily life about the amount of fat I eat. People don’t get it. But I happily ignore them. Thanks for not only sharing your story, and recipes, but also, thankyou for being such a wonderful advocate for us and our community!

  100. Juli, this post is SOOO refreshingly honest and open, THANK YOU for writing it! I eat 80-90% paleo and for the past two years have felt shamed for not being 100% all the time, and also having backed off CrossFit to lift lighter and take off days when my body tells me I need it. I’ve tried explaining to others that this is the lifestyle that makes me the most HAPPY – where I can see progress and feel my body being happy and healthy, where I can ENJOY the occasional non-paleo treat or meal and not feel bad about it and also not feel like a terrible person who declines meals/treats for the sake of being 100% paleo no matter the occasion. I still remember going out with friends a few years ago for my best friend’s birthday and the servers brought her a special birthday treat, she shared with everyone and it looked, smelled, sounded amazing. I was the only one who declined because it wasn’t paleo, and I felt like a terrible friend. Food brings us together, and if the occasional treat allows me to enjoy moments and celebrate life more, I’m going to indulge now. No more beating myself up in a lose-lose battle of negativity. As a leader in the paleo-blog community, I think your stance on this issue is wonderful, and I appreciate you sharing it with us! Again, thank you! Still hoping to meet you one day in Denver! Please let us know if you’re doing any book signings in the area!

  101. Juli – I am almost 40 and just in the last few years have I figured out that I don’t want to treat my body like a battleground anymore. Your blog is part of how I got there. If anyone gives you any shit, I’ll beat ’em up. That is all.

  102. I so needed to read this! I am constantly thinking if only I was more restrictive with eating or worked out harder i would have those killer bodies I see on TV, magazines, beach,etc.truth is I wont, and have spent 30+ years of my 42 years on this earth trying to be “perfect” whatever that even is. I am trying to slow down and enjoy life more and quit obsessing over things that I cant control. You rock!!!

  103. Juli, I love you. You are perfect, just the way you are. I have suffered from an eating disorder for the past 20 years (I am almost 38 years old) and you have inspired me to take better care of myself. I want to love myself as you have learned to love yourself at age 26.

    Thank you for posting this today. Haters are always going to hate.

  104. I seriously want to be BFFs with you! I love your site and I think your recipes are fantastic. How many of those assholes maintain a FREE website with awesome recipes helping people who want to try something different and see if it works for them? Probably none, all they can do is criticize and mock because they couldn’t do what you do so they sit there and judge. Honestly, I don’t think there’s anything more pathetic than that. Oh, you have all the answers mr. anonymous internet commenter? Great, publish your works and share with us your endless wisdom and the answers to everything so we can be as enlightened as you. I’m sure it’s upsetting to read those types of comments, but really, their issue is with themselves. Don’t let it phase you, you’re awesome.

  105. First of all, you’re literally one of my favorite people ever and we’ve never even met, so already this is weird (you liked my Facebook status a couple of weeks ago about CrossFit and I died and screenshot it)

    I know you can’t really answer all of these comments but if you happen to see mine- I just wanted to know if you just knew your hormones were out of whack or if you actually went to a doctor and found out. I’m wondering if that’s my problem. Im with the 80% of the female population who has highly restricted and over exercised .. when I started CrossFit I just gained weight. Love my strength, hate my body. I’m cutting back and doing some more running/cardio. Wanted to know if you had any advice to people in the same Situation as you- I remember you started spinning right? And just going lighter/working on form/less times a week?

    You’re the best !! Please don’t change anything about yourself or your blog
    🙂

    1. I started running a good amount, but once winter hit, I stopped doing that. Then I did spin for a while, but it bored me. So now I really only doing crossfit, just do the workouts lighter. so I’ll still go as heavy as i can in the lifts before the workout, then usually go way lighter in the workout. like the other day had 135# front squats in the workout and i did 85#. it’s still challenging for me (i’m not the strongest in squats) but I’m not having to drop the bar every few reps

  106. Juli, it’s completely f’ing ridiculous that you even have to write any of that. Who do people think they are?! How can they even be bothered?!!
    I think you’re awesome, and I love that you occasionally cheat. I cheat too. THEY cheat as well, but they pretend they don’t because they care what people think and want to appear as perfection. Do what YOU want, and what makes YOU feel good. Keep doing what you do, cause I have enormous amounts of respect for all of it 🙂 x

  107. Juli, this is without a doubt, my favorite post of yours. It’s so insightful and it gives people a chance to understand the real you, beyond all of the recipes. You are awesome!

  108. I love you so much for writing this, every single word. As a new blogger I know exactly what forums you mean, and I hate that I read what people say on there and wind up feeling gross afterwards. The self loathing on that site is nauseating. Anyway, I’m relieved you posted this because you’re someone I’ve really come to trust, as well as all the other amazing people in the paleo community and I think reading this confirmed for me once and for all not to give a second thought to what anyone thinks about my life and my situation. YOU are an awesome girl! I seriously look forward to everything you post!

  109. I fucking love you, Juli! I want to be your best friend and also be you at the same time. That’s weird. I don’t care.

    Your blog is real and that’s why I love it. I love hearing what you have to say. I don’t come here to follow a mold of how to be a perfect crossfitter-paleo-person. I come here to read about your day, about Jackson, maybe get a new recipe idea to try, to giggle in my office, or whatever the fuck your post makes me do each day. I come here because I want to and I think you’re awesome.

    Anyone who doesn’t? Meh. Who cares.

  110. “Have you ever thought you wanted something and changed your mind along the way? If you haven’t, you’re boring”

    I love this! Preach!

  111. Well said!! You are super brave, and such an inspiration !! People are really just so judgmental , and I feel sorry for those people!! You are awesome! And, you have JACKSON woot woot , best dog ever ( shhh don’t tell my pups, haha) keep up the good work, I can’t wait to get your cook book:-))

  112. You are a hell of a cook, with an amazing ability to make delicious whole foods.
    People are such assholes about diet. The dietary “smug” get so old so quick. You still provide great recipes…. I could care less if you eat McDonalds with a side of pepsi and a slab of cake for dinner.

  113. Juli
    You should do what makes you feel good and makes you feel healthy. Forget everyone else who is not supportive because in 1 day from now their opinion won’t matter! Keep the yummy recipes coming!

  114. Good for you Juli – enjoy the journey and keep sharing your adventures with us along the way. Love the recipes and love the commentary.

  115. Bravo Juli, People need to keep their traps shut about people and their lifestyles. I try to eat Paleo as much as possible but ya know, sometimes a girl just likes a little cheese. And I’m fine with it. I’m also fine with people who are vegetarians who eat fish or chicken. Whatever gets you out of bed in the morning. I’m also ok with people who live off of fast food, ya know why? Cuz I’m not a judgmental person, I realize we are all different and what works for one might not work for the other.
    Grrrr…evil rant over.

  116. The internet is a crazy, scary place.

    Thank you for being a trailblazer and putting yourself out there for all of us to benefit from. It can’t be easy… I’m personally grateful for what you do and in awe of how you handle it all with such honesty and grace.

  117. As a 43 year old, I remember the pre-internet days when people just talked about you behind your back and their audience wasn’t nearly as big :-). I have three things to share with you from my years of wisdom and being the mother of a 22 and 16 year old:
    1. Success is the best revenge. (Keep living your great life)
    2. Who cares what others think of you? You shouldn’t… don’t waste your energy.
    3. Love of self comes from the inside out. (sounds like you figured that one out early)
    ps I love the Jazzercise mention – I actually used to teach that!!! LOL!

  118. PREACH! I’ve been following your blog for years, but haven’t commented until now because I wanted to say I completely support your philosophy! You go girl!

  119. Denise finocchio

    Beautifully stated. You know yourself and what is good for you…….some people never come to this reality!

    You are amazing as well as your recipes too!

    I’ve struggled my entire life accepting myself and finally found the balance of eating healthy and fitness. Forgiving myself for falling off the wagon and how to get back on!

    Keep up your great work you inspire me!

  120. Hey Juli,

    I’m eatin Ben & Jerry’s froyo for dessert after my paleo dinner and if anyone has a problem with that they can play in traffic. I’m not perfect I eat what works for me and sometimes it’s paleo and sometimes it’s gluten free and sometimes I throw in a treat that’s neither. Eff the haters. Keepin doing you girl!

    Xo Krystle

  121. Your blog is the only “paleo” blog that I read (consistently) – and the reason for that is you are the MOST human one of them all – that’s what I love about your blog, your not strict paleo and to me that makes you super relatable – I look forward to reading your blog every week – thank you!

  122. I love you, Juli! You’re funny, smart, strong, and beautiful. You’ve come a long way since I met you at Evolve, and I’m glad to hear you no longer obsess about food (or CrossFit) but instead focus on enjoying a healthy life. You’re so grown up now! 🙂

  123. I think your blog is PERFECT just the way it is, title and all. It evolves just like people do which makes it very real. I hope you focus on the 99% totally positive comments and ignore the unproductive hateful ones. Please don’t change your style, So many of us look forward to reading every day 🙂

  124. Woman! share that opinion…. that’s what we read your stuff for. & yes you may hate negative people and I know being open to hearing people whether they are being positive or not goes a long way in life. Humans are always changing, it can’t be helped… so those against change are seriously confused about nature and humanness. Your realization is so empowering. Your changes are a blessing. Keep sharing. We’ll all keep growing, & hopfully “those” that really need to change for the positive will get a little wiser;)

  125. Girl, I feel you. Like so, so much I understand what you’re saying and going through. A year ago I was in tip top shape for my wedding and the over the course of the past year, I’ve moved cross country, made a huge career change, and just have different priorities. I was stressing over gaining weight and was just generally uncomfortable in my skin, no matter what I did. Now I’ve found a groove and as I’m thinking/stressing less about what I eat, I’m feeling better about my body.

    It’s amazing how many people go through this, even without realizing, and it’s such a hard thing to admit to yourself, let alone to the interwebs. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and doing what’s best for you. Keep it up!

  126. One of my mottos is this:
    F@ck the haters.

    I don’t know why people are hating on other websites, on instagram or even in the comments here. If people don’t like this blog then move along. Its the friggen interweb and there are a million paleo blogs out there! Don’t wish that this ONE is something other than it is.

    Juli, keep up the great work providing free paleo recipes en masse to those of us who are soaking it up!

  127. That totally brought tears to my eyes. It is the encouragement to be “YOU” that got me. :*) thanks!

  128. Love the post Juli – you are really inspirational to us all – you are a real woman and I love the fact that you talk about everything, the good and the bad.

    I am a paleo CrossFitter and my body is changing. It’s so hard not being ‘the norm’ and going shopping is tough when you realise that nothing is made for an athletic body. But knowing that others out there go through the same things i do helps me through it. (I found denim shorts that fit the other day and did a major happy dance in the changing cubicle!!)

    Also I think it is healthy not to promote paleo perfection and that’s why I love checking out your Instagram. It helps my head when I want to eat a paleo snack or GF muffin but my head says no – I just ask myself, what would juli do! Helps me make the right choice for me every time.

    Thank you Juli for doing what you do and helping me on my journey.

  129. Julie

    Some people are just going to hate …. Its the old ‘keyboard muscles syndrome’ It’s sad but true. What’s great is that you are true to yourself!!

    When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Some people on the other hand get lemons and just suck them inside out.

    Richard

  130. What a great post!! you are a GEM …. keep doing your thing.. I iwll keep reading your blog and buying your books …because your recipes ROCK my socks and so does your writing and personality

    Lexi from Toronto
    ps— come to Canada soon !! Toronto is awesome in the summer and so many great food fests!

  131. Amen Sister!! I do not understand why people spend so much of their energy on negative bullsh*t!!! Don’t they realize they will never, evah evah evah get that time back? i mean, duh!! love your blog, love your instagram & most definitely have a crush on Jackson 🙂

  132. Thank you for this. I am always trying to reconcile my CrossFit goals with my body image goals and they are ALWAYS at odds. I, too, can train super hard, eat super clean and never look ripped like my friends. I think it may be time to evaluate what’s most important to me.

  133. Great post, Juli. Good for you for having a handle on this at 26. You are so far ahead of the game. Something I am still trying to come to terms with in my 40s.

  134. Hi Juli,

    I’ve been reading your blog for a few weeks now and I absolutely love it. It’s fresh and honest and makes me smile every single morning. I’ve tried many of your recipes and tricks and am having a blast.
    Insecure people try to convince themselves that their opinion is right and yours is wrong. I say whatever, life is too short and drama just ends up sucking the energy out of people. In the past year, I have come to realize that I have serious issues with food. And it’s ok to talk about it, work on it and try different things. I did Weight Watchers for over a year, lost a bunch of weight and then slowly moved to a Paleo-ish diet. Why? Because it works for me and my lifestyle. Some people seem to want to debate things like someone else’s diet and exercise routine. Why???? My body, my choice. Judgy people need to calm the EFF down and worry about their own issues.

    You are a great person and I love your blog. It makes a difference in people’s lives.
    Mel

  135. I just read this post and I am in tears over it. It is so ridiculous how people talk about others decisions. Your blog is one of my favorites. I hunted you down at the Paleo f(x) conference to sign your cookbook, that I brought with me! LOL. I have struggled all my life with my weight and I hate my body. I have had 3 kids, but can’t really use that as an excuse…my youngest is 16! I just love to eat! But since going Paleo, Aug 2013, I’ve lost 30 lbs. I have hit a brick wall, Dec 2013, and am struggling to lose anymore. Could be because I don’t workout enough..kinda like ever. My family is kinda demanding and I’ve had to start college classes for my job. I know I know, excuses! But your blog is such and inspiration to those of us out here that are kinda lost. I don’t have a support system at home. I’m the only healthy eating person in my household so its hard. Please let the haters hate and don’t ever stop this blog!!

  136. I love your blog, your IG, and your honesty. Eating healthy and exercising while finding balance in daily life is extremely difficult; I struggle every day. You are clearly a real person with real struggles and real initiative to work toward being a healthier, happier person. I admire that and that is why I creep your blog every day. Your recipes have been so helpful to me and so many others. Keep your head up!

  137. Awesome post! Just awesome! Thanks for sharing that and as someone who has struggled (bad) with disorderd eating and overexercising it’s comforting to hear stories of stopping it in it’s tracks and recovering. Give me hope! I often get wrapped up in working out like others do and wanting to look like they do. I need to take your advice here and do what works for me! Thank you for being so inspiring. And haters gonnna hate, just ignore them. Cause karma is a b**ch and they will get theirs!

  138. A lot of us are in this boat…and sometimes just too afraid to admit it. Especially since starting CrossFit I have let my ego get in the way of decreasing my volume or taking time off. Do I seriously care that people won’t think I’m “badass” anymore?? I did care but I don’t anymore. Thanks for this post!

  139. Live your life fully and unapologetically. Life is too short and the more time you give to negative people, the less time you have to grow. Just look at how much positivity you have brought to all the people who love your sight! I know I get excited every time I check to see if theres a new recipe posted.

  140. Yup. It’s bizarre. People LOVE to analyze and criticize those who are attempting to do things that are good for THEIR body, and yet heaven forbid if someone mention the BAD things they are doing to their own bodies. We’re being trained to be hyper-sensitive to the the unhealthy people, but it’s perfectly OK to slam people who are being healthy. Makes perfect sense, right?

    I have stayed away from FB lately because I’m tired of all the “gluten sensitivity is all in your head” posts I’m seeing. I DO eat gluten when i’m tempted, and I pay the price for it over and over and over. I know the cost, and I sometimes do it anyway, but I pay a high price and since you don’t live in my body, you have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA how is affecting me. :/ (heh, maybe I should drag them into the bathroom with me next time?)

  141. Amen, sister! It appears you have tons of positive comments for this post, but I want to add one more because we all deserve to be told we’re great once in a while. I appreciate your honesty and your style. I feel sad for people who don’t embrace some flexibility in their lives…

  142. I never comment on blogs, but it felt necessary today. I feel like people post negative things elsewhere just to get you to write something like this… silly people.
    I really enjoy your posts/rants and of course the FOOD – you are someone I can relate to as I have an obsession with food too! THANK YOU for all the wonderful posts.
    I originally found Paleo because I found out I have hormone issues too – mostly because I was working out too much (not CrossFit, but just my general ‘want to do everything fitness related that is fun’ me). Who knew too much of a ‘good thing’ would do that? Happy to hear you have ‘found yourself’ a little earlier than I did. I am a health fanatic in general & get rants like ‘how are you so healthy?’ and ‘you really enjoy eating THAT?’ ALL the time. The joke is on them though – they probably don’t feel as great as we do. Fine tuning things and moderation can be hard, but isn’t it great when you finally figure yourself out? 🙂
    Thanks Juli!!

  143. This resonates with my own story so much. Thank you for putting into words what I have been struggling to do for a while 😉

    Screw the haters, you’re ace!

  144. Thank you I enjoyed this post — and it makes so much sense to me and I admire you for being YOU and letting people know we are all human and have to do what makes us happy to survive this crazy world.

    You give me inspiration!

  145. As a fellow crossfitter and (mostly) primal eater, I have had this struggle for years. Even when I eat well, train hard, my body will never look like some of the jacked crossfit girls I have worked out with. After 5 years of going through a mostly mental game with myself, I have finally come to the realization that all I need to do is focus on what I can do in this moment in time. Two days ago I PR’d by 20lbs on my push press, and I couldn’t believe it. I have been eating healthy but not punishing myself when I don’t. It’s okay to have a piece of cake with a sh** ton of icing on it!!

    Thank you so much for this post. It makes me feel better. I am who I am, and I shouldn’t let anyone make me feel guilty for my choices.

    Thank you!

  146. You totally made my day with this post. You rock. People that critize how you live are insane. I think you’re awesome!

  147. Bravo! Thank you for writing what I’m feeling. We need more women like you to talk the truth about listening to your body, choosing to enjoy the ride. I love how you write and I love that you look an issue in the eye and called it out. I love that you are happier being you. And I love you’re recipes and humor. Lotta love happening here 🙂 Keep up the great work Juli! And tell the haters to kiss your a$$!

  148. Thank you for posting this. After having a baby people can be extremely rude and you can hear them say “Man, she STILL didn’t lose the baby weight?” And then once I found your blog, started eating better and losing the weight, now I hear “Man, she must be anorexic or doing something unhealthy.” People will always talk and have negative comments. It takes a truly strong person to ignore it all and be true to themselves. Thank you for helping me get there!

  149. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU Juli!!!!!! This post just literally made my whole week! I am currently re-calibrating my relationship with myself and my eating habits and it is quite honestly one of the hardest challenges I’ve experienced. I, like you, have done all of the over training, under eating, obsessive counting and tracking, thinking “what’s wrong with my body…why won’t it look like that girls” and it’s exhausting and unnecessary! I am so happy that you’ve found a peaceful place and am going to use this post as motivation and inspiration to continue on with this challenge and hope I come out the other side in a happy place like you are right now. I couldn’t agree more about just eating what makes YOU FEEL good and what you CRAVE and enjoy eating when you are hungry and not worrying about what macronutrient it is….it took me 28 years to realize it…but hey – we can’t all be quick learners! 🙂 I absolutely LOVE reading your posts everyday and think the social media needs more innovators like yourself!! Also, your dog is adorable!! 🙂

  150. Attention in the messhall! Julie, my wife and I find your blog to be the most refreshing, hilarious and appetizing out there. We both read it everyday to pick up ideas for our meals. Mark Sisson, who knows a thing or two about being paleo, says that he wants us to be at least 80% paleo but NOT 100%….it’s just too stressful. I’ve learned to completely ignore what others think about me. I will live my life as I please while being respectful to others. Keep up the great work, please post more pictures of Jackson!!!!, enjoy your life with your boyfriend and other crossfitters. Thank you, Roger Beck, US Army Retired, Airborne Ranger

  151. Judgy people suck. I get where you are and honestly who cares what everyone thinks as long as you’re happy 🙂

  152. I know this post has already gotten a bazillion comments, but I just have to add my own. Sorry. Deal with it. Like you and the other 80% of women, I struggled with my weight, diet and health. Health blogs and diets just made me feel frustrated and defeated because I could never perfectly follow the restrictive diet they preach. When I discovered your blog and way of thinking, it changed my life. It made me feel like I could eat healthy a majority of the time and still allow myself to indulge on occassion without beating myself up. So eff the haters. Your blog rocks. I am now a healthy weight for the first time since I was probably 8 years old. (I’m now 24.) I work out 4-5 times a week and feel great! 🙂

  153. Thank you for this post, I really needed it today. I have hit a plateau and was starting to obsess about what I could do to change things up while also stressing about not being happy with what I have. This is exactly the motivation I needed to put things back into perspective. Keep it up, you are an inspiration!

  154. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have been on and off the Paleo wagon and have just recently decided to get back on but I a not taking myself too seriously. I just started Crossfit and I love it. I happened to find the perfect box that I know is not expecting me to compete. I have learned that I am doing pretty darn good for 42 and I am learning to love my body! If I cheat every so often i don’t let it ruin my life.

    You go girl!

  155. There goes Juli B keeping it real. Just part of why we love you! You’re right. The haters are boring and stupid. Cowardly too. You just keep being you. We like you that way!

  156. The Internet is full of weirdos who like to judge. I love your blog and your attitude, so I’m glad you wrote this post. I’m starting to come around to that kind of thinking after years of messed up ideas about food, and it’s starting to feel really nice to feel good about myself first and foremost. You rule, girl.

  157. High five to you for paying attention to your body, and doing what’s best for you. I too have a history of disordered eating, and found that the Primal 80/20 method is perfect for me. I have friends who thrive doing Whole 30s and strict Paleo. That ain’t me. Trying to be “perfect” like that, makes me obsess over food and then HATE myself if I have a small splurge. No thanks.
    Good for you for taking such good care of yourself and thanks again for posting such fantastic recipes for all of us to enjoy here, on your site. I just made your chewy chocolate cookies this past weekend, and your apple bars are one of my favorite treats to make, too.
    Haters gonna hate, man.

  158. I went through the same damn thing, minus the whole my life being online part. I found that anytime I went off my diet slightly I had tummy issues, on top of not looking the way I wanted. Who wants to live like that. I gave up my dream of competing in figure competitions, simply because of this. I would much rather lead a more balanced, fuller, and happier life than restrict myself, and be miserable, and who cares what others think!

  159. Michelle Vicino

    Well said. Let them hate. You are the only person you need to worry about…..and Jackson 🙂