Ummmmmm to the people who said changing your name isn’t a pain the ass, YOU’RE A LIAR. Straight up. It is a complete pain. And it takes so much effing time. I keep hearing, “Oh, I just took an entire day off work to get it done.” Well, I work for myself. So when I take time off, I’m actually losing money since I’m not working. No PTO for me! After using a website a friend told me about and getting 43% done, I had to take a break and walk away. And I haven’t gone back to it in over 5 days. It does all your bank, mortgage, IRS, SS, etc. etc. etc. paperwork but it never ends. I ended up getting so annoyed that my husband didn’t have to do anything and I found myself mad at him for no reason. Especially since I said I wanted to change my name. I want to take his name, but I don’t want to take the steps to get there. I will, but I will b*tch every second along the way. That’s totally normal, right? Going with yes.
So far, being married has been completely the same as just being in a relationship. Except now we have to review big purchases with each other. But other than that, nothing is different. Oh wait, I’m also asked 7 times per day when we are having kids. EVERYONE asks us that. Us meaning me. I think it’s just a conversation starter for people who can’t think of anything better to talk about me, but for me, it’s an awkward topic. I don’t feel the need for children, at all, but then when I hear people talk about it constantly, it gives me anxiety that I SHOULD feel the need to have children. So it’s this constant internal battle of figuring out what is right for US instead of what society is telling us.
The children stuff just really freaks me out. We are at the first point in our lives that we can save money, we can go on little trips together, we can go out late or sleep in or be hungover. We can do whatever we want to do and giving that up is just way too scary at this point. Please don’t tell me that it’s totally worth it. I get it. I’m sure it is. But going on a trip to New Zealand on a whim is way more worth it to me at this point. I don’t know if that feeling will ever change. What I know definitely won’t ever change is the look on people’s faces when they ask me about kids and I say “EW”. That look is priceless.
Speaking of priceless, GUESS WHAT?! I got a belated wedding gift from a friend recently and it’s something I’ve ALWAYS wanted. Always but never pulled the trigger…a Kitchen Aid Mixer! Squeeeeeeeee! I have most kitchen toys, but I just could never bring myself to put down the money for a mixer. And she just bought me a teal one that matches the cover of my third cookbook! I die. I love it so much! But now I have to figure out what to make first in it. I think it will be cupcakes…because cupcakes. What’s your favorite thing to make in your mixer? Tell me stuff, inspire me, give me ideas! I need you, amazing readers!!!
Have you guys tried Pacific Foods Bone Broth yet? The ingredients are crazy simple, only using water, chicken, onion, cider vinegar and rosemary extract! So instead of having to boil your ingredients to build your stock (especially on a hot summer day), all you have to do is add Pacific Foods Bone Broth to any recipe for a healthy and delicious flavor. They also have a turkey broth AND broths with added flavors such as lemongrass or ginger! The broth even has 9 grams of protein per serving so you’re feeling fuller longer with the help of this broth!
Simple Summer Squash Soup
- Yield: 4-6 1x
Ingredients
- 3 tablespoons ghee
- 1 sweet onion, minced
- 3 garlic cloves, minced
- 2 zucchinis, chopped
- 2 yellow squash, chopped
- 32 fluid ounces Pacific Foods Chicken Bone Broth
- 1 teaspoon dried thyme
- 1 teaspoon dried oregano
- 1 teaspoon dried rosemary
- 1 teaspoon salt
- juice of half a lemon
- handful of parsley + extra for garnish
- olive oil, to garnish
Instructions
- Place a large dutch oven over medium heat. Add ghee along with onion, garlic, zucchini and squash and let cook for about 10-12 minutes, until onion is translucent.
- Then add bone broth, thyme, oregano, rosemary, and salt, cover and let cook for 20-25 minutes, until zucchini and squash are fork tender.
- Remove from heat to let cool before transferring to a high speed blender. Add lemon juice and a small handful of parsley to the pot to mix. Then once slightly cooled, pour half the soup mixture into a blender and blend until smooth. (I used my Blendtec and turned it on the soup setting to get it completely smooth.) Blend the other half of the soup mixture as well.
- Garnish with parsley leaves and olive oil!
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I’m the SAME way about kids. I totally see why people love it and that it is for some people. But I don’t believe that I SHOULD have kids just because it is perceived that is the natural progression of life. My MIL was on us for kids for SO LONG, my husband had to tell her that we weren’t able to have kids. That shut her up! hahah!
hang in there.. do what is right for you both. We’ve been married 7 years and still don’t have that urge for kids. We love having freedom to do whatever and travel! 🙂
So I just have to comment here because I was nodding my head to the whole post and laughing out loud. Changing your last name is a biatch! I am literally coming up on my 1st wedding anniversary next weekend, and I’m pretty sure I still haven’t changed my name for all my docs. I know I sure as heck haven’t for my passport (whoops!)…I have just been so lazy with it after changing the major ones that I kinda took the attitude that I’ll get to it once I’m forced to. 🙂 So yeah, I feel ya on the pregnancy thing too. Six months after I got married, I changed jobs at my company. People were literally asking me everyday if I was pregnant. Um, rude much!!! The worst was when someone congratulated me and asked me when I was due. A complete stranger to me at the company. I was like, “I’m not.” I think my new response when I am asked if I am pregnant is going to be, “are you?” I like “ew” though too. 🙂 Hang in there…from one non-pregnant girl to another. 🙂
I got married 3 days after I turned 27 and I am 32 now with no kids yet. When we got married, we got the question all the time and we both answered with, ‘in a couple years’. Every year, we travel to somewhere else in the world and we say, ‘maybe next year’. I felt bad that I didn’t wake up every morning with the urge to be a mom, but then I realized I wanted to be a mom but I just didn’t want to yet. Timing is so important. Life doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Your finances, career path, life goals can be drastically different 6 months from now and it took me years to see those changes actually happen before I realized that even though I am not ready today to get prego, I might definitely feel ready in 2 months from now…who knows! My friend described being ready in a really awesome way. She said that she knew she was ready when she took a prego test when her period was late and when it came back negative, she was sad instead of relieved. She said once that happened she knew she wanted a baby. You just keep doing your own thing!!
I made this 2 days ago and it is absolute heaven. I subbed in organic pasture raised chicken broth for the bone broth, just cuz it was way cheaper, and it still turned out delish. The drizzle of olive oil on top makes is the perfect finishing touch. I’m planning to cook up some chicken in the pressure cooker, then shred it and add it to the rest of the soup to make a meal in a bowl.
My husband and I got married exactly 4 weeks ago. We’re 37 and 39 and have known for years and years that kids are just not for us. We love our nieces and nephews, but also love coming home to our quiet house to play with OUR kid – a cuddly brindle pit bull who thinks she’s a lap dog.
I compromised in my last relationship (of 4.5 years!). He wanted kids, and I already knew I didn’t, but thought MAYBE I’d change my mind, especially because he was such a great guy, we got along really well and I knew he would’ve made a great dad. He’s now happily married with 2 kids and I couldn’t be more thrilled for him.
Thankfully my husband and I haven’t had to deal with nosy family or friends. We’ve been very clear about not wanting kids from the get go, and he also got a birthday vasectomy soon after we got together (yay!!).
So long as you and hubs are on the same page and you’re happy, that’s all that matters.
Take it from a Grandma, Sweetie ~ ENJOY your time with hubs, lots of it, enjoy your freedom. Kids are great if you want them but they change EVERYTHING. You have to be ready to accept the fact that your life is not your own anymore. It’s all about what’s best for the little ones.
So follow your own heart and don’t let folks pressure you. Keep doing what you’re doing!!!
Hey Juli! This looks amazing. Can it be done without a dutch oven?
We have no kids. Instead of getting asked when…everyone just assumes we have a few! It’s awkward trying to explain why we don’t. Just can’t win!
you could do it in a heavy bottomed pot!
Just made this with the spiralized zucchini leftover pieces that I’ve been saving in the freezer for months and homemade broth – delicious, and I’m happy to get that big container out of my freezer!
glad you liked it, Elisa!
Just an anside….When I got married the first time in 1968 the government changed my name automatically and sent me a new Social Security Card with it printed on it. . My life was pretty simple then but hey it did seem to be convenient. Thanks to Woman’s Liberation you now have to do all the deciding for yourself. You are all welcome.
And that is my sense of humor. By the way thanks for the soup recipe, I look forward to trying it out. Blessings and happy marriage.