Ummmmmm to the people who said changing your name isn’t a pain the ass, YOU’RE A LIAR. Straight up. It is a complete pain. And it takes so much effing time. I keep hearing, “Oh, I just took an entire day off work to get it done.” Well, I work for myself. So when I take time off, I’m actually losing money since I’m not working. No PTO for me! After using a website a friend told me about and getting 43% done, I had to take a break and walk away. And I haven’t gone back to it in over 5 days. It does all your bank, mortgage, IRS, SS, etc. etc. etc. paperwork but it never ends. I ended up getting so annoyed that my husband didn’t have to do anything and I found myself mad at him for no reason. Especially since I said I wanted to change my name. I want to take his name, but I don’t want to take the steps to get there. I will, but I will b*tch every second along the way. That’s totally normal, right? Going with yes.
So far, being married has been completely the same as just being in a relationship. Except now we have to review big purchases with each other. But other than that, nothing is different. Oh wait, I’m also asked 7 times per day when we are having kids. EVERYONE asks us that. Us meaning me. I think it’s just a conversation starter for people who can’t think of anything better to talk about me, but for me, it’s an awkward topic. I don’t feel the need for children, at all, but then when I hear people talk about it constantly, it gives me anxiety that I SHOULD feel the need to have children. So it’s this constant internal battle of figuring out what is right for US instead of what society is telling us.
The children stuff just really freaks me out. We are at the first point in our lives that we can save money, we can go on little trips together, we can go out late or sleep in or be hungover. We can do whatever we want to do and giving that up is just way too scary at this point. Please don’t tell me that it’s totally worth it. I get it. I’m sure it is. But going on a trip to New Zealand on a whim is way more worth it to me at this point. I don’t know if that feeling will ever change. What I know definitely won’t ever change is the look on people’s faces when they ask me about kids and I say “EW”. That look is priceless.
Speaking of priceless, GUESS WHAT?! I got a belated wedding gift from a friend recently and it’s something I’ve ALWAYS wanted. Always but never pulled the trigger…a Kitchen Aid Mixer! Squeeeeeeeee! I have most kitchen toys, but I just could never bring myself to put down the money for a mixer. And she just bought me a teal one that matches the cover of my third cookbook! I die. I love it so much! But now I have to figure out what to make first in it. I think it will be cupcakes…because cupcakes. What’s your favorite thing to make in your mixer? Tell me stuff, inspire me, give me ideas! I need you, amazing readers!!!
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Simple Summer Squash Soup
- Yield: 4-6 1x
Ingredients
- 3 tablespoons ghee
- 1 sweet onion, minced
- 3 garlic cloves, minced
- 2 zucchinis, chopped
- 2 yellow squash, chopped
- 32 fluid ounces Pacific Foods Chicken Bone Broth
- 1 teaspoon dried thyme
- 1 teaspoon dried oregano
- 1 teaspoon dried rosemary
- 1 teaspoon salt
- juice of half a lemon
- handful of parsley + extra for garnish
- olive oil, to garnish
Instructions
- Place a large dutch oven over medium heat. Add ghee along with onion, garlic, zucchini and squash and let cook for about 10-12 minutes, until onion is translucent.
- Then add bone broth, thyme, oregano, rosemary, and salt, cover and let cook for 20-25 minutes, until zucchini and squash are fork tender.
- Remove from heat to let cool before transferring to a high speed blender. Add lemon juice and a small handful of parsley to the pot to mix. Then once slightly cooled, pour half the soup mixture into a blender and blend until smooth. (I used my Blendtec and turned it on the soup setting to get it completely smooth.) Blend the other half of the soup mixture as well.
- Garnish with parsley leaves and olive oil!
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And btw- we still travel with our children. I don’t know why everyone thinks it is impossible. Our last trip was to France and was AMAZING!
Ugh we get the kids question a LOT. And we kept saying 30. But I’m about to be 25 and I’m like man…30 seems a lot closer than when we got engaged at 22 and it was almost 10 years away. Now it’s five. And five is…not that many. Yikes. Anyway, I also find it super creepy for people to basically be asking: So, are you having protected or unprotected sexual relations with your husband? Because COME ON that is basically what the question boils down to.
lol seriously. so gross.
I tried preparing this summer squash soup at my home. Though it was not perfect but i nearly succeeded. My kids and husband like it alot and are now too fond of this dish. They insist me to make this squash every now and then.
Girl, I’m feeling you on the kids question. We have been together 16yrs. We now have 9 nieces/nephews under the age of 8, and we have pictures everywhere and artwork and we talk about them constantly. But we don’t want any of our own, and some people just can’t accept that. Your statement about where you are in life resonated with me: We are also at the point where we are saving tons of money, traveling whenever we want, moving whenever we want. Hell, we are still finding out who we are as a couple! And it is an awesome time!
I think the people that keep insisting that you have kids really just want a really fun person in their boat to lessen their stress. Yeah, that sounds like total fun … Keep doin’ what you do Juli, it’s no big deal if you never want to get in their boat!!
I also agree on the children thing for now- I am totally content to have all the freedom I want. I do think people just want to use it as a conversation starter- but really? So personal and awkward!
Grr, on the kids thing. It is my personal code NEVER ever to ask someone about kids. I will, however, immediately ask you if you wear underwear with workout leggings. (Rude. I know. I’m just trying to figure this leggings thing out.)
Don’t forget the passport for name change! I put that one off until uncomfortably close to a trip.
haha i do but i know A LOT of other women who don’t wear it with their leggings. but i always wear a thong. one of my biggest pet peeves is seeing other people underwear lines. i don’t know why but it bothers me lol
is it TMI to ask if you have found any good ones you recommend? i’ve been on the lookout for some no show workout panties!
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About the children thing. You are still young! Enjoy your life and make the most of what you are able to do now. Someone asking whether or not you want kids is such a personal question. They shouldn’t be asking in the first place, so don’t let it bother you. Some people don’t ever want kids and live happy and fulfilling lives. Others don’t know what they want yet. And then there are people who would love to have kids, but cannot for whatever reason. Everyone is different.
I didn’t realize I wanted kids until I was in my early 30’s. My husband and I had a great life – successful careers, we travelled the world and got to live in different countries, eat in some of the best restaurants in the world. But, despite our great life, we started to feel empty and wanted our own family. I have never been into other people’s kids, but would see other women out with their babies and wanted what they had. So we welcomed our first baby last year. Bringing another little person into the world who is completely reliant on you for everything changes your life. Yes, you can still travel and go out for meals, but it’s different. What to do with your career is also a big consideration. Not everyone wants a nanny or day-care to raise their kids, and it’s very difficult to work from home while looking after a baby (trust me!!!).
So my point is, I think it’s important to make the most of your life before having kids so you appreciate them more if you do end up having them, and not feel like you have missed out. Also, as much as I love my nieces and nephews, it’s not the same as having your own children. My older sister once told me having a baby takes your relationship with your husband to the next level and it’s like an extension of you both. I couldn’t agree more 🙂
OMG I would definitely make chocolate chip cookies. And banana bread. YUM. I’m definitely making this soup for dinner tonight. This looks amazing!!!
Just so you don’t feel too picked on, it happens the other way as well. My husband and I married young-ish (22&23). Once ring was on finger I was thinking about kids and we were pregnant after about 9 months of marriage. And people were judgemental! Don’t you want to just be married for a while? Make sure it’s going to work? You’re wasting your youth! It was rude and annoying to be treated like dumb kids and it felt like people were sitting back, waiting for us to fail. 18 years and 4 kids later, we are still like newlyweds and are laughing at the haters. No matter what you do, people are always looking to stick their noses in your business and tell you you’re doing it wrong!
true story!!
I’ve wanted to email you about this after reading your blog several times on the topic of BC/kids but I didn’t want to come off as a total creeper. I really think you might like a copper IUD! I was on BC for years and years and then ended up going to the sponge thing and rhythm and timing method, etc. That didn’t work out too well. I finally decided to man up and get the copper IUD and it’s a game changer. I will tell you that the insertion definitely hurt. But only for roughly 30 seconds. I drank my pain away that evening in terms of cramps. Yes basically monsoons will flood out of you the first period or two but after that life is AHHHHHMAAAAZZZZZZING. Never worrying about pills and no hormonal issues. Also BC can impact bacterial gut flora and also make you more disposed to candida, etc. I love it since I got it and haven’t experience anything except for awesomeness.
I’m 28 and have basically come to the realization that I personally don’t want kids. Your not a horrible person if you don’t. Which society tries to make you feel like. I LIKE MONEY and FREEDOM and other things like silence, vacations, and buying stupid fancy things I don’t need from whole foods. People like to ignore the fact that the planet only can fit so many humans on it…… Anyways, you’re my idol/guru/mentor whatever you want to call it. Stay strong on the doin you front.