The CrossFit Open comes to a close tonight! Surprisingly, I’m a bit sad for it to go. The CrossFit Open use to be a time that I pushed myself to my limits in order to make it to Regionals. Then I went through a time of hating it. Now I’m back to pushing myself as hard as I can, knowing I’m not nearly at the capacity I use to be, but still happy with where I’m at. I haven’t looked at my overall standing the whole time, but I’m excited to see how I finish later tonight, and I will be happy no matter where the standing is!
Anywho, I need to talk about something that has been on my mind all weekend. It’s not very often that I’m around people who talk sh*t about themselves or their body. My CrossFit gym doesn’t do that. We put emphasis on working hard in the gym, eating healthy and enjoying life. So the girls that I’m around most often don’t talk about their imperfections, they talk about their accomplishments. My fiancé also isn’t one to put up with self pity. When we first started dating, I would say negative things about myself and he would ignore me or tell me to knock it off. He wasn’t going to support those habits and let them go on. Because of CrossFit and my fiancé, over time I was able to kick that habit. I still have my own insecurities and things I get frustrated with, but they don’t run my life.
This past weekend I was around some friends who talk poorly of themselves and constantly point out their imperfections. The more I listened to the negative talk, the more I noticed that I was thinking negative thoughts about myself, when I hadn’t done that in quite some time. And it almost made me sick to my stomach. I’ve worked hard for years; in the kitchen, in the gym and on myself. And for me to feel negative thoughts because of someone else was unacceptable. So I had to take a step back.
The point is, don’t be that person. We all have insecurities and imperfections and frustrations. But that’s why we work hard. To improve ourselves with every meal, every workout, every positive thought. Our thoughts are not anyone else’s responsibilities, they are our own. It’s time we took responsibility for your own insecurities and stopped putting those feelings onto others. It’s time to grow up. So next time you’re feeling insecure or upset about something, remember that you are strong enough to deal with it. No need to search for compliments or point out a dimple or a stretch mark. Show the world that you can be confident, even when you might not be feeling that way. Create your own destiny and always strive for positivity. I say this because I’ve been that person in the past and looking back now, I truly wish I would have recognized it and changed that behavior sooner!
Sunday –
5 rounds:
10 weighted deficit sumo squats (I used a 55# KB)
15 dips
25 weighted russian twists
20 bench jump overs
15 lying leg lifts (with above head towards ceiling)
Monday – Rest day/Travel day
Tuesday – Rest day/Travel day
Wednesday – Snow Day = Shovel instead of workout since the gym closed, which I was actually crazy sore from!
Thursday –
EMOM x 10: Power Clean & Push Jerk x 3. All sets between 60% & 80% – I got to 110#
2 Rounds For Time: (17 min Time Cap)
35 Cal Row
35 KB Swings (70/55) – I used 45#
35 Cal on Air Dyne Bike
35 Wall Ball
I finished in 15:45
Friday –
21-18-15-12-9-6-3:
Thrusters (95/65)
Bar Facing Burpees
I finished in 12:08 rx
Saturday –
25 minute AMRAP – with a partner (1 person working at a time):
100 kettlebell swings
80 calorie row
60 toes to bar
40 strict handstand push ups or pike push ups
We we 2 rounds plus 40 kb swings using 45# and doing pike push ups
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At Home or Hotel Gym Workout:
20 minute AMRAP:
25 jumping lunges
20 v-ups
15 jumping squats
10 pike push ups
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Thanks for the reminder…in this day of social media/instant new we tend to see a lot of negative stuff or things that may make us feel insignificant when we compare our lives to others. It can be difficult to be positive but it can become a habit and make your mind and body feel so much better. Have a great rest of the day!
I always say, when you talk negatively about yourself, you give permission to others to do the same. The sad part is you could be giving that permission to your sister, mom, daughter brother etc.
Also- that re-directing to the App Store is still happening. It must be a third party advertiser as you said.
love that little quote. it’s so true!! as for the redirecting, trying to crack that issue while we speak. so sorry for the inconvenience
Amen! I became much more aware of negative talk among my girlfriends and just (mostly women, some men) people in general after my daughter was born two years ago. Funny, I never noticed it as much–if at all–when my son was born five years ago and even now as he is growing into a spunky six year-old. There is SUCH an epidemic of this sh!# among women, and we have to stop. My mom commented about how awful she looked in our Easter pictures, and I just ignored her. Normally, I would reassure her, but I am not playing into the pity anymore. We are all beautiful beings. We need to teach our daughters better. And ourselves.
Great message and great reminder Juli! I’ve struggle with self-negative talk greatly in the past but I’m proud to say that it’s very minimal these days. My husband would always respond very similar to how your fiancé would respond. He would almost ignore it because he didn’t even want to go there. At first it bothered me that he didn’t acknowledge my pity parties but now I look back and appreciate that he didn’t. It would have just put more fuel in the fire of negativity. So thank you for this friendly reminder!
it’s amazing how women can add fuel to the fire and we can get caught up in it. so nice to have strong minded men in our lives that won’t put up with it!
Long time reader, maybe my first time commenting. I just wanted to say I think you’re spot on with this whole post… and that 12:08 Rx for 16.5 is amazing!! I finished the scaled version in 16:47 & thought I saw Jesus for a second when I finished that last burpee.
Anyway, as someone new to CrossFit (I started at my gym about 6 months ago) who is also competitive in general, it’s been interesting to find myself navigating between feeling super badass about the things I can do and insecure about all the things I can’t (yet) (F you, double unders). It’s easy to get caught up in negative self talk & I have definitely caught myself downplaying my accomplishments instead of celebrating them, and shrugging off compliments instead of just saying thank you.
So, thanks for this reminder that we all just need to own our own shit, keep working hard, and be proud of ourselves, no matter where we are in our journey!
glad i could remind you to be kind to yourself! the competition part can be frustrating with CF sometimes, but that’s why it’s so addicting: because you’re constantly trying to improve! keep up the hard work!
You are SICK! I finished 16.5 in 22:17 and I felt pretty bad ass, your time is ridiculous!!!!
I needed to hear this today! Thank you 🙂
12:08!?!?! I hate this workout the most. Probably trying it again today 🙁
again?! wwwwwwww! you couldn’t pay me to do it again lol
Thanks for this post! It’s so easy to get caught up in the comparison game, especially via social media.
Great post. Sometimes it’s easy for me to think negative thoughts, like on how my body will never be like it used to be before I had babies. But, like you, working out has really helped me. I may have stretch marks and extra skin, but I’m SO much stronger now than I used to be. I have muscles I didn’t even know I had. I hope my daughters see this in me someday – not a mom who strives to starve herself skinny. I want them to be proud of their capabilities and accomplishments!!!
if I ever have children, i want to make sure weight is never brought up in my house. i was around that most of my life and it really shaped me for quite some time. i think seeing a mother working out is so empowering to her children and such a great influence!