Happy Monday, you lovely soul! How was your weekend?! What did you do? Hopefully you kicked some serious ass and took names. Whatever that even means. I worked my ass off this weekend to get ahead before the holidays kick in and I’m feeling better than ever because of it! I’ve come to love working on football Sundays!
Anywho, I want to talk a little about confidence because I’ve decided that I want to cover that topic in my upcoming podcast this week! For most of my life, I was one of the most insecure people I knew. I was miserable and it was utterly exhausting. I spent my days obsessing about what I did or didn’t have. I hated my cellulite, my hair, my skin, my voice. I was fat, ugly, not good enough, not smart enough. I felt as though I had nothing to offer in this world and I found myself just going through the motions every day. It’s truly heartbreaking when I look back at it.
Some people are just born with confidence. They walk tall, they believe in themselves, and they just own exactly who they are. But for others, like me, it takes work, it takes perseverance, and it takes daily effort to be exactly who I want to be.
When I record my upcoming podcast this week, I’m going to talk about the steps that I had to take to become a more confident person and the changes that had to be made for me to really conquer my own life. But first, I want to know what questions YOU have when it comes to this subject. Is this something you battle or have you pushed through and found your confidence? Share your comments, questions and stories below! I’m really looking forward to recording this podcast and I hope I can help others find their stride when it comes to holding their head high!
Sunday – Rest day
Monday – Stomach flu day
Tuesday – Stomach flu day
Wednesday – Still stomach flu sketch
Thursday –
20 mins Moving With Purpose
6 x 5 sec Tempo Sumo Deadlifts w. reset (65%)
12 Alternating DB Shoulder Press. Adding.
12 Strict Pull Ups
I got 5+4 using 135# deadlift and 20# dumbbells then did 7 strict pull ups each time
Then 6 min AMRAP Of:
18 Wall Ball (20/14)
40 Double Unders
I got 5+6 rx
Friday –
For time: (24 min time cap)
1,000m Row – 50 Hand release push ups – 50 Box Jumps (24/20)
750m Row – 35 Hand release push ups – 35 Box Jumps
500m Row – 25 Hand release push ups – 25 Box Jumps
I got 18:57 rx
Saturday –
4 rounds
1 min wall balls
1 min burpees
1 min power cleans (95/65)
1 min rowing
1 min push press (same weight)
1 min rest
I got 345 reps rx
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Hi Juli! You are such a gem! I’ve been L-O-V-I-N-G your podcast and was so excited to hear that you’ll be discussing confidence this week on your next recording, mostly because when I think of confident, healthy, and kick-ass women out there in the world today, I think of you (for real though, not trying to butter you up)!
I’m hoping that you can discuss the elements of confidence for both single and taken ladies out there. I’m engaged myself, but I have some amazing, beautiful, and for REAL motivational friends who are single and are struggling to embrace their beautiful solo selves. Maybe speak about your pre-marriage, pre-dating life and how women especially can embrace the journey and love themselves right where they’re at. Thanks!!
I feel like I can relate with all of your posts. I have always been a go getter and want to achieve things but I lacked in confidence and decision making. I found crossfit about 3 years ago and seeing all the strong women in my gym inspired me to want to be strong. With that strength came confidence! I am now a coach at my gym and am continuing to feel better about myself with my ability to do more things. I guess I don’t really have any questions for the podcast but I think that when you find something that you love and that you can work on every day to get better at is when you’ll find that confidence.
Hi Julie,
Thank you for covering this topic! This is something I have struggled with feeling my whole life as well. My question is, did you wake up one day and just feel more confident or is it a decision you have to make and think about every single day?
Thank you for all your awesome recipes, workouts and motivation. You are just the best!
Juli,
I go through bouts where I’m confident that I’m going to reach my goals to days where I have low self esteem and don’t believe I can form new habits. In the latter, I binge eat but I eventually come back to believing I can change. Do you have any advice to beat the blues in maintaining a healthy lifestyle? What do you tell yourself to keep going strong when you feel so weak and stop the cycle? Thanks!
I’ve got a question! How did you become confident in your new “lifestyle” when you decided to go paleo & focus on your own health and fitness? I have friends and family whom I know love me and mean well (“you already look great! You already work so hard! You don’t have to deprive yourself!”) so it’s hard to “convince” them and be confident in my ways sometimes (oh, maybe I should just eat what she made so she’s not offended… maybe she’s right…etc)
I’m a big fan of yours and your lifestyle..keep it up!! 🙂
Did you ever struggle with confidence in your friendships? It may sound stupid, but I get really insecure about how my friends perceive me, and if they still value me as a friend as much as they may have before. Or if that’s changed, etc. I care too much about it, I know, so I’m wondering if you ever had to overcome that.
If you don’t mind, can you not mention me by name on your podcast?
thanks!
Ditto for me on this one!
Hi Julie –
I definitely struggle with a lack of confidence at times! Although I have gotten better about comparing me to ME rather than others, one of the things I often find myself doing is comparing myself to other people in the gym! Why can she do that movement and I can’t? Why was she able to lift more than me? Why can’t I be as fast as her? Why can she eat like that and still look so good ? etc. etc. This negativity and comparing myself to others has a huge negative impact on my performance at the gym and the way I feel after I finish a strength or WOD. Sometimes I leave the gym feeling disappointed and “not good enough” when really I should be happy that I came in and got the workout in and have made a lot of individual progress. Any tips for overcoming this? Thanks!
You look amazing. I mean seriously amazing. Every time you link to a model wearing a legging or other clothes you like I think, Juli looks so much better in that than the model!
So I’m wondering if you think you would still feel as confident even if you didn’t have a killer body.
Personally, since I went paleo after having my 2nd child in 2013, I lost almost 50 lbs. Losing that much weight after having a baby means I now have loose skin on my tummy. (I hear loose skin is a “myth” and that it is really subcutaneous fat under the skin and if I could get my body fat down to like 15% it would go away) but meanwhile I’m not feeling too confident about my midsection and I’m not sure if that’s realistic.
What finally took you to get that confidence? What was your breaking point? What finally have you the confidence. Because girl….you are confident.
For me, I’ve been compared to others, was always told what I did wrong, been the butt of the joke. So that’s what I told myself, that I’m not good enough.
Until years later, meeting different people, reading books, my relationship with God and actually changing Crossfit boxes, I realized I’m good enough and I started building my confidence. And actually following you and seeing how you shine, it was infectious. Thanks!
Hi Julie! I am very much an introvert and am wondering if you have any advice on how to make friends in the gym. I just have no confidence to approach new people at the gym, especially at a new gym, but I know the gym is a great place to meet new people. Any tips for breaking the ice?
Not to answer for juli at all, but I was the same way. I started pushing myself to say Hi to everyone or give a genuine smile – walking to work, at the gym, stores and so forth. Then I ‘challenged’ myself to have one conversation with a new person everyday. This has helped me become more positive, outgoing in new social settings and overall a win. Hope this helps.