Happy Monday, you lovely soul! How was your weekend?! What did you do? Hopefully you kicked some serious ass and took names. Whatever that even means. I worked my ass off this weekend to get ahead before the holidays kick in and I’m feeling better than ever because of it! I’ve come to love working on football Sundays!
Anywho, I want to talk a little about confidence because I’ve decided that I want to cover that topic in my upcoming podcast this week! For most of my life, I was one of the most insecure people I knew. I was miserable and it was utterly exhausting. I spent my days obsessing about what I did or didn’t have. I hated my cellulite, my hair, my skin, my voice. I was fat, ugly, not good enough, not smart enough. I felt as though I had nothing to offer in this world and I found myself just going through the motions every day. It’s truly heartbreaking when I look back at it.
Some people are just born with confidence. They walk tall, they believe in themselves, and they just own exactly who they are. But for others, like me, it takes work, it takes perseverance, and it takes daily effort to be exactly who I want to be.
When I record my upcoming podcast this week, I’m going to talk about the steps that I had to take to become a more confident person and the changes that had to be made for me to really conquer my own life. But first, I want to know what questions YOU have when it comes to this subject. Is this something you battle or have you pushed through and found your confidence? Share your comments, questions and stories below! I’m really looking forward to recording this podcast and I hope I can help others find their stride when it comes to holding their head high!
Sunday – Rest day
Monday – Stomach flu day
Tuesday – Stomach flu day
Wednesday – Still stomach flu sketch
Thursday –
20 mins Moving With Purpose
6 x 5 sec Tempo Sumo Deadlifts w. reset (65%)
12 Alternating DB Shoulder Press. Adding.
12 Strict Pull Ups
I got 5+4 using 135# deadlift and 20# dumbbells then did 7 strict pull ups each time
Then 6 min AMRAP Of:
18 Wall Ball (20/14)
40 Double Unders
I got 5+6 rx
Friday –
For time: (24 min time cap)
1,000m Row – 50 Hand release push ups – 50 Box Jumps (24/20)
750m Row – 35 Hand release push ups – 35 Box Jumps
500m Row – 25 Hand release push ups – 25 Box Jumps
I got 18:57 rx
Saturday –
4 rounds
1 min wall balls
1 min burpees
1 min power cleans (95/65)
1 min rowing
1 min push press (same weight)
1 min rest
I got 345 reps rx
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Hi Juli! Love your blog…podcasts…everything! You are great 🙂 So, I am 36 years old and just recently started Crossfit. I have always been active (running or barre classes) but nothing like this type of training, but I love it so far!! Anyhow, I live in a college town, and 90% of my gym are YOUNG, fit, college students. I go in and just work with my coach and do my thing (lots of modifications at this point), but it is hard not to think they are staring me down wondering what in the hell is this old woman doing here. Maybe I am wrong…actually, I probably am. None of them have been assholes….which comes down to me and my obvious lack of confidence. Any advice for an “old” beginner??
Hey Julie,
I have a similar question as Nicole. How can I gain confidence in the gym? Just started crossfit and still feeling a bit lost but liking it overall. Thanks in advance!
Hey Juli! Love your podcast. I almost never curse but I love your unabashed cussing. I also love how you hate in McDonalds and soda haha. I hear ya girl. Anyways, I used to be very confident and “externally” fit about 6 years ago. I worked out but ate what I wanted and maintained a trim look. Then I moved across the country, started a stressful residency program, ate rich southern food, and gained 10 lbs. that I could never seem to shed. Then a marriage, baby, and a diagnosis of hypothyroidism and possible PCOS later, here I am still stuck at that same weight (though I did lose 23ish lbs of baby weight). I’ve been struggling to regain the confidence I had 6 years ago and look that fit again. I have definitely cleaned up my eating BIG time, bug I feel like externally it’s not showing. Any tips?
Oh, Juli, thank you! thank you! thank you for coming up with the topic of confidence. It is EVERYTHING. It is for me having the belief that what I do today (turn down the dessert, finish the WOD, finish my work or do the right thing) will matter. I can’t wait to hear what you share with us about this. As a fellow entrepreneur who wears many hats, I would love to hear how you have the confidence to know that in juggling your business, your personal life and your fitness, how do you have the confidence that you are wearing the right hat or actually doing the right thing at the right time? Also, how did you get the confidence after you quit competing in CrossFit to just eat according to your body’s needs especially after your sugar addiction? OK, and how do you the confidence to resist all of the advice about Macronutrients and all that? I’ve tried and that stuff just makes me Cray. Cray. Looking forward to your podcast!
Love this podcast idea, Julie! As someone who is known for being tough AF in my industry, I recently pushed myself outside of my comfort zone and moved to an island with just myself and actually haven’t thought twice about it. If you haven’t watched Steve Harvey’s JUMP clip, please do so. 6 minutes and 30 seconds that get you excited to push yourself out of your comfort zone. I think you exude so much confidence, it is awesome to get a little laugh at your Snap rants throughout the day. Or Jackson stalk…he is actually on my vision board, fyi..
excited for your podcast!
Amanda
Confidence issues…just another thing I am able to relate to you on (seriously we would be BFF’s if we lived anywhere near each other )! So on the outside, I exude confidence everywhere (at the gym, in my work, with my friends), but on the inside I am the MOST insecure person.
Growing my confidence is something I have been working on for a long, long time, and I’ve recently found a method that has been working for me.
Setting small goals.
I decide on something I want to accomplish to feel better about myself and I work just on that. When it’s completed, it brings me a jolt of confidence and kind of registers in my brain that I am good at something (does that make sense?).
Most recently, I set a goal for running a marathon. I did it, and have been flying on that high for the last month. My current goal is to go down one pants size. I’m gaining confidence as I am working toward that goal, and know once I hit it, I will hopefully give myself another couple confidence points.
My question for you is:
How do you handle shitty people who intentionally (or unintentionally) seem to want to bring your confidence to zero? Whether that is something they say in person or online. I’m super effected (affected? I have no idea) still by what other people think of me and if I read or hear one negative comment I’m dunzo. (PS I live in South Korea where the people are tiny. Often shop owners will look at me and say, “No Big Size”. I’m a size 10 working down to an 8, so I wouldn’t exactly describe myself as ‘big size’..ah it drives me nuts and makes me feel so shitty!)
Anyway, love the podcast – love the reader engagement as well!
Cheers,
Katie
Hi Juli, I know a lot of people find confidence in CrossFit but I was hoping you could discuss confidence outside of CrossFit, for those who don’t belong to a gym. I’ve read about your transformation between competing to where you are now, but if you could go more into how you decided to lift less… What that process was like, how long it took for you to feel confident in your process, etc. That would be awesome! I follow a lot of bloggers on IG but you are the only one whose blog I visit every week. Seriously love the podcasts!
Julie,
I think Katie’s comment about appearing confident but internally still being insecure should definitely be a part of your podcast. I often question how many of those people who appear confident actually struggle internally, I would consider myself one of those people at times.
I think the answer comes ultimately from being happy with yourself, and not getting your happiness from others. If we rely on compliments from others to be the basis of our self worth and the source of happiness then we give up control of our happiness, which is a slippery slope. Don’t get me wrong, who doesn’t love a compliment from a friend or stranger, but the compliment that should matter the most is the one we give ourselves.
The only other comment/question I’d like to pass along is related to the “cycle” that I saw someone else mention. I am curious what your thoughts are here. I think its probably more normal than we think. From time to time something is going to happen that shakes our confidence. It’s important to regain perspective in those situations, just because one thing happened, or recently something is going on that is shaking your confidence, look back at the long term and what you have accomplished, then let your track record provide the motivation to regain your confidence/happiness.
Look forward to the episode.
Hi Juli! Great podcast idea and thank you so much for discussing this! I My question or I guess something I would love for you to elaborate on is you talk a lot about this “f*ck it” moment you had with your eating. Being good during the week and bingeing on the weekends or being good for 6 months and falling off track for weeks at a time is something I’m sure a lot of us relate to. It sounds so easy just saying “f*ck it* and being magically cured and able to eat intuitively since that moment. How did confidence play a role in moving away from calorie counting or measuring your foods? I have tracked my food in some way for the past 7 years and am really setting a goal to move away from it and just cook and eat healthy foods that I want and that make me feel good. BUT so much easier said than done. Anything you can discuss to elaborate a bit more on how you did that would be so appreciated and helpful to my own journey.
I absolutely love all of the content on your blog, snapchat, insta, etc. Thanks for being so great!
i’ll definitely cover these subjects, jess!!
Ummm…. First off, you are h-o-t! I just felt like I had to get that out-of-the-way. *gains composure* Not entirely sure how or why it took me this long but I just on your podcast three days ago. I’m fucking addicted to you. I love it that you’re real and not afraid to speak your mind. At first, your dog got on my nerves. But I’ve grown to love your dog. Ish. Looking forward to more podcasts, Instagram, etc. etc.