Life should always include a lemonade in hand when sunshine is a blazin’ during summertime festivities. And when I say festivities, I mean anything you do throughout the day. Workout out – lemonade. Going to the bathroom – lemonade. Walking the dog – lemonade. Yelling at the kids while they ruin the house since they are home from school for the summer – lemonade.
Speaking of kids, over the weekend I went to a BBQ that included all friends that either have children or are pregnant. For me, a person that has no yearning to have children at the moment, I still enjoy talking to people about their kids. I like hearing their different experiences, their ups and downs, the love for their children. I like hearing all of it. What I do not like is when they start hounding me about making babies, even after I say I’m not ready. Or tell me that my husband isn’t getting any younger. It makes me not want to have children even more, just to spite them. I just hate when people act like having children isn’t a big deal. It’s a big f*cking deal. And to someone like me, it’s a very scary deal. I just wish I had more friends that understood that, or at least respected it.
Sorry to get all deep on ya today. These situations just continue to happen and that anxiety weighs pretty heavy on me for a few days after it’s brought up. And it just feels like the weight is completely on me. Whenever these friends bring up having kids or are pushing me to have kids, it feels so disingenuous. Not like they hope I have kids to experience a love that is so incredibly pure, but instead, they hope I have kids so they have someone to commiserate with. That’s what it honestly feels like, whether it’s true or not. It’s just a weird time in my life that feels so private but so in the spotlight at the same time. It’s a weird place to be in as a woman.
Instead, I want to concentrate on a fun trip coming up. My husband has been wanting to rent a house for the whole family for a little family vacation for quite some time now. And we finally decided on Mexico. This won’t be until next year, but it’s still exciting to look forward to. If I was having a baby, we probably wouldn’t go there. Ya know, Zica and kidnappings and all that jazz. But since I’m without child and don’t plan on being with child, we can all go. And I can go to Aspen in a couple weeks. And the Caribbean in August. And I can also drink lemonade in a quiet house, filled with simple puppy snores. Seems like a pretty good deal to me. But who am I to judge? I’m the old 29 year old married woman that still isn’t pregnant. What do I know.
I just thought about what it must be like reading my blog for the first time, knowing nothing about me. Tough one to walk into. But I promise I’m positive 34% of the time!
Strawberry Peach Lemonade
- Yield: 6-8 1x
Ingredients
- 2 cups roughly chopped strawberries
- 2 cups roughly chopped peaches
- 3/4 cup raw honey
- 1/2 cup water
- 2 cups fresh lemon juice (about 6–8 large lemons)
- 6 cups water
Instructions
- Place strawberries, peaches, honey and 1/2 cup water in a medium saucepan over medium heat and let reduce for 10 minutes. Let cool for another 10 minutes then place in a high speed blender and blend until completely combined.
- Strain mixer through a sieve into a large pitcher and then add lemon and 6 cups of water. Mix to combined then place in the fridge to cool completely.
- Serve lemonade over ice!
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“But since I’m without child, and don’t plan on being with child, we can all go” hahahahaha
I agree. Literally just got married and already all the pressure. It crazy how this happens! Its like we are so accustomed to this routine that anyone who doesn’t follow it is a weirdo. Do you! 🙂
This looks AMAZING!!!! SOOOOOO trying this today <3
I waited until 34 and 9 years of marriage to have my first, and I am SO happy I did. We traveled, drank a TON of wine when we lived in Napa, spent too much money on nice dinners, and basically had a blast. Plus, I got to focus 100% on my career and I didn’t have to feel guilty about that.
I HATED it when people bugged me about having a baby because I had no desire to have a kid for a long time, and once I did decide that I wanted to have a kid, I went through 2 years of fertility treatments.
Anyway, live it up until you decide you’re ready, and don’t let anyone tell you what’s right for you!
lol. I was 33 and with my husband for 13 years before we had kids. Much like you I spent my 20’s working hard in my career, building a business, traveling and just getting ahead in life. By the time I hit 30 I still didn’t know whether or not I wanted kids…
Live your life to the fullest. Kinda rude of people to ask.
People stopped asking whether we wanted kids as they assumed we didn’t, but then we had our first everyone started asking if we would have another one and when! I’m actually surprised how many people ask this because to me that is private.
I am almost 39, childless by choice, and have heard it all. The best was when a friend casually dismissed my reasons for not having children and said, “but you would look so cute pregnant!”
Riiiight…’cause that’s a great reason to grow a whole new human and be responsible for them for the rest of my life.
I’m single, 30, childless, and failing every single milestone I’ve been brought up to believe I’m supposed to meet. I used to get upset about it and now I just blankly stare at people when they try to engage in conversations about that stuff. It’s so frustrating that we have these expectations put on us where we’re supposed to meet at a certain age or point in our relationships or else we are seen as not on track or “normal”. I totally relate to this post and appreciate it.
My husband & I have been together for 13 years, married just over a year and I am in the same boat.. The commentary is not as bad with my friends but more so family. The crazy thing is that we have 11 nieces & nephews between us both so why do people feel like we just HAVE to pop out kids?! Better yet, why is it their business?! If I were to say “well you already have several so why do you insist on having more” then I’d be the jerk but others can basically judge for not? I honestly just feel like the people around us who act like that are jealous that we don’t have them because we get to do whatever the hell we want, lol. Ugh. Don’t mean to rant but I have read your blog for yearsss and I can completely sympathize with your situation. Love ALL the food, beauty and fitness posts as I stalk you on here, IG and snapchat <3
yes! i hate that double standard!
My husband and I were married TEN years before we had our son. I was 37 when I had him – and I don’t regret that decision ever! It is a huge decision and it’s OK to be selfish right now! You enjoy yourself and tell everyone to GFY
XO
People always get a little confused and upset when other people are not following the deadlines and rules they have in their mind. I do this myself sometimes. Nothing to worry about.
I love the lemonade, and perfect for the first day of summer! Will need to load up with some fruit tomorrow!
Okay, so here’s my take. The thing that is expected of you by everybody is highschool-college-marriage-kids-more kids. I have FOUR kids and people STILL say, “About time for another one isn’t it?!” Um, no. I have done my time, these kids all know how to swim and brush their teeth and sleep all night and follow our two rules (1. eat something green every day 2. don’t be a dick), factory closed.
People are always going to ask, and to them it’s like asking about the weather or the traffic or your job-just something to talk about. You can’t change that, so the only thing you can change is your own reaction. When they say “When are you going to have kids?” you just smile and say, “I’m going to Mexico!” And think about the fact that those people can’t travel without a tiny human strapped to them and sucking the life out of them and getting diarrhea and making the trip numpty-nine jillion times more complicated and freaking expensive. There are great things about having kids, but they are HARD and they are forever.
I am totally in awe and respectful of people who don’t want kids, know it, and honor themselves by sticking to that decision rather than making themselves and their children miserable by having kids they didn’t actually want. I know TOO many people in that situation. So I say, take the advice you give us, and that you give everybody who tells you cheese isn’t Paleo, and YOU DO YOU.